feedback please? setting boundaries with adult child
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|Wed, 12-18-2013 - 2:28am|
Would really appreciate some feedback on what would be the healthiest. I am stuck and struggling. I've decided that this year i am not going to all my usuall efforts for Christmas with one of my daughters. This following note explains why.
I am trying to no longer just ignore or enable the disrespectful dysfunctional behavior that has gone on for ages. I am wondering is if I should send the note to her or just send card, no gifts without the note. One of the things I value is communication so the note would up front explain why there are no gifts this year. Or should I send no note and let her guess and just fade into the sunset.
Thanks I know this is such a busy time but wold appreciate this soon.
Sending letters, gifts, cards or messages are one way I reach out to stay connected and build relationship with the people that I love. I send these things because I care. When they are not acknowledged, it leaves me wondering: Did you receive them? Do you value them? Do you care? And I wonder what action to take in the future. Back in May, I sent a letter to you inviting your ideas, wants, needs on how we want be a part of each other’s lives, including holidays and special occasions. Since I have not heard anything from you I’ll assume this is not so important to you. I could be wrong but until I hear otherwise from you I will not really know how you feel.
Since I have little idea if the efforts I make are of value to you, I am refraining from my usual holiday efforts this year but send this little card to wish all of you a wonderful Christmas.
Love as always,