Feeling Very Lonley Lately need some advice

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Registered: 09-12-2007
Feeling Very Lonley Lately need some advice
Mon, 07-04-2011 - 10:48am

Let me start by saying I am 31 years old and single. I live on my own and have a very good job. I like my life for the most part. However my problem is my social life outside of work. It seems the past year it's been non existant. This is b/c most of my friends my age either got married or have girlfriends and I rarley hear from them and they don't have time for me. When I am off from work I try and keep busy and do things but there are times where it gets pretty bad and I do the same routine every weekend and I have to think I have no life.

I just feel very uncomfortable with myself at times going out by myself but I am pushing past it. I dont think it's a good idea for me to go to a bar and just sit there alone. I am going to try online dating again and see if anything comes out of it. I have had some limited sucess on there in the past. I know if I was with someone and had someone to spend time with I would not feel down.

This past weekend I was able to spend time with a group of friends that are married, but they actually include people. They don't make me feel uncomfortable or anything when out with them. I started hanging out with some of their friends also who are single so it's always a

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Registered: 02-13-2006
Tue, 07-05-2011 - 11:33am

Hello.Well I'll start by saying be thankful you have a job.I don't really have one still and its been pver 2yrs.I'm 36 and I know what you're talking about though when it comes to your friends having significant others and when you call they're always busy with one thing or another.

That online dating thing....don't do it.I've done it and yeah i did meet my exbf and we were together for 2 yrs BUT over all...it really is hard to find someone that way.I am a very introverted person so I know that I need to stop using online dating.In fact I had recently joined a site for 2 months...nothing at all.You know what you could do is try to find a site that specializes in activities for single people.They're out there.That way you could have something to do with other singles like yourself.

It sucks being lonely...I have been like this more since I became unemployed.You feel isolated when the weekend comes around BUT I feel isolated through the whole week.Like I said look into sites that cater to having activities for single people.You might find some new friends to hang out with.Good luck :)

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Registered: 01-22-2004
Tue, 07-05-2011 - 12:33am

Hi, I know how it feels because I also feel very lonely. I´m a 59 years old woman and loneliness sometimes is killing me. Not having a job now makes things worst. I have very few friends but they also have their lives, and I don´t want to

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Registered: 02-14-2004
Mon, 07-04-2011 - 12:44pm

It seems to be more difficult for people of

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Registered: 07-29-2002
Mon, 07-04-2011 - 12:02pm

Have you considered volunteer work or maybe taking a class in something that interests you?