Fight with Sister.....

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Registered: 02-25-2011
Fight with Sister.....
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Fri, 02-25-2011 - 10:43am

Both my sister and I are grown with children. While we have always had a strained relationship. She is older and so that means she was a mothering type and I was a younger middle child and very distant and rebellious. I seem to be always trying to make up for my past failings and now as adults can't seem to get everything right.

She recently moved out of province before she moved she wrote me and said we aren't sisters just like distant cousins and it hurt so much. Afterwards she made it clear we are not welcome to visit as we are not interested in seeing her just where she lives.

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Registered: 10-05-2007
Fri, 02-25-2011 - 1:06pm

I'm confused - your sister is mad because you called to wish her daughter a happy birthday, and you sent her a gift for Valentines?

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Registered: 12-02-2008
Fri, 02-25-2011 - 1:16pm

Wow!!!

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Registered: 02-25-2011
Fri, 02-25-2011 - 1:43pm

Thanks but

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Registered: 12-02-2008
Fri, 02-25-2011 - 4:18pm
You have to stop letting her beat you up!!! I'm not really sure what sort of things you did or how you think you could have been a better sister, but I can't think of anything that could be so bad that she would STILL be treating you this way so many years later!!!

She needs to get over herself!!! The past is the past & its OVER!! You were a kid & you did stupid things...that I'm sure you've apologized for more than once!!!!


I feel terribly for you....you seem to want this to be your fault. BUT this is NOT your fault!!! This is your sister's hang up & it sounds to me like she's never going to let you live it down....


Family is what you make it... You have what sounds like a great husband & kids... Focus on the good things....and leave the ball in her court!!!

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Registered: 07-29-2002
Fri, 02-25-2011 - 4:20pm

Your Sister is strapping on conditions contingent to maintaining a relationship.

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