Friend moving away & has no time for me

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Registered: 03-16-2004
Friend moving away & has no time for me
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Wed, 10-26-2011 - 4:35am

Hi,

My neighbor and I have been friends for 8 years. My 12 yr old daughter has been friends with her daughters, too. (Her daughters are a few years younger than my DD and they never hung out a lot, but they are friends and do sometimes see each other.) In the beginning of September,

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Registered: 11-03-2011
Thu, 11-03-2011 - 1:54am

Hey JoJo,

I understand your frustration with plans that aren't followed through with. I am someone who loves to make plans, and when other people don't take them seriously, I get very upset. However, I am also someone who moved A LOT as a child. A lot = 12 different houses by the time I was 17. It's an extremely stressful thing to go through. I would imagine even more stressful if you are uprooting your family from a long-term home. So, this brings me to a few points.

1. 8 years is a long time to know someone. I'm sure that she appreciates you and will miss you terribly. I would like to predict tha you will soon get an update on their new life as soon as they are settled in. Your friend is probably counting on those 8 years of friendship lasting through the stress and hurt feelings of a big move.

2. This is a period of change for both of you. While I'm sure you will always have fond memories of your neighbor, it is definitely time to move on. Take your negative energy and put it into a welcome pie for the new neighbors, or a group activity with new friends.

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Registered: 03-16-2004
Thu, 11-03-2011 - 3:27am

Hi Kaitilouwho,

Thanks for the reply. I appreciate your input on this. The photo was to be an opportunity for us to get together for a few minutes to say goodbye and for our kids to say goodbye, too. As it stands, my daughter never got to say goodbye to her friends and this made my DD feel hurt. As bad as I felt that I got blown off, I felt bad that my DD had her feelings hurt, too. (The day after they moved and were gone, my DD stood on the sidewalk and looked at their house with a sort of disbeliving look on her face. She was kind of stunned that her friends never said goodbye to her. It made me feel bad to see this.)

A very important point (and this was not in my 1st post)-my friend went out THE NIGHT BEFORE SHE MOVED with her kids and hubby to go out to dinner with some other friends to say bye to them. So, she had time to do this the very night before she moved, but could not find a few minutes for us.

As for moving on and getting over this, my

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