Is friend not interested in our friendship???

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jojo192004
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Is friend not interested in our friendship???
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 Tue, 08-09-2011 - 12:15am

Hi,

I need some perspective on a situation I am going through with a good friend. To give you some background, we have been good friends for about 1 1/2 years. Up until April, we got together at least

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sillysadie
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Registered: 02-14-2004
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Re: Is friend not interested in our friendship???
 Tue, 08-09-2011 - 2:14am

Have you considered just talking to her if she's such a good friend?

jojo192004
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Re: Is friend not interested in our friendship???
 Tue, 08-09-2011 - 2:49am

Hi Sillysadie-

jojo192004
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Re: Is friend not interested in our friendship???
 Tue, 08-09-2011 - 2:54am

Here is an update to my post:

My friend and I

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cfk_3
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Re: Is friend not interested in our friendship???
 Tue, 08-09-2011 - 11:04am
Could she be depressed, clinically? A sign of depression is indecisiveness. If it were me, I'd wait until the next time I saw this person, and ask them if there is something I have done to cause them to want to distance themselves from me.
jojo192004
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Re: Is friend not interested in our friendship???
 Tue, 08-09-2011 - 1:24pm

Hi CFK-

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cowboys_grl
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Re: Is friend not interested in our friendship???
 Tue, 08-09-2011 - 4:08pm

I read all your posts....I would, honestly talk to her!!

Kiki (hit my magic age of 45 and no longer TTC),but mom to a beautiful teen DD & 2 angels in heaven & married to my best friend

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cfk_3
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Re: Is friend not interested in our friendship???
 Tue, 08-09-2011 - 4:24pm
I tell you what, I have a friend I've known for 20 years. Out of the blue, she emailed and asked if she had done something to offend me. I wasn't put off by her email in the least. I felt horrible that she thought I was upset with her(I obviously wasn't). I think we'd played some phone tag and each had a lot going on at the time. Anyway, for some reason, that was her perception.

I think you should let your friend know how you're feeling.
imotherothers
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Re: Is friend not interested in our friendship???
 Tue, 08-09-2011 - 4:27pm

I think I would respond to emails asking to do something by giving her my schedule and a few ideas you are interested in and letting her know if any of those work to contact you.

jojo192004
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Re: Is friend not interested in our friendship???
 Tue, 08-09-2011 - 8:19pm

Hi Cowboys grl-

I would have offered to pay for her lunch if she really seemed like she wanted to go out. But, the when she said she "had to save her pennies" and couldn't afford lunch (or anything else, per her)

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elc11
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Re: Is friend not interested in our friendship???
 Tue, 08-09-2011 - 8:27pm

It does sound like she is avoiding you. As for what to do, here are a couple of possible approaches:

The first is to trust your intuition

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