Is friend not interested in our friendship???

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Registered: 03-16-2004
Is friend not interested in our friendship???
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Tue, 08-09-2011 - 12:15am

Hi,

I need some perspective on a situation I am going through with a good friend. To give you some background, we have been good friends for about 1 1/2 years. Up until April, we got together at least

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Registered: 02-14-2004
Tue, 08-09-2011 - 2:14am

Have you considered just talking to her if she's such a good friend?

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Registered: 03-16-2004
Tue, 08-09-2011 - 2:49am

Hi Sillysadie-

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Registered: 03-16-2004
Tue, 08-09-2011 - 2:54am

Here is an update to my post:

My friend and I

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Registered: 05-14-1999
Tue, 08-09-2011 - 11:04am
Could she be depressed, clinically? A sign of depression is indecisiveness. If it were me, I'd wait until the next time I saw this person, and ask them if there is something I have done to cause them to want to distance themselves from me.
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Registered: 03-16-2004
Tue, 08-09-2011 - 1:24pm

Hi CFK-

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Tue, 08-09-2011 - 4:08pm

I read all your posts....I would, honestly talk to her!!

Kiki (hit my magic age of 45 and no longer TTC),but mom to a beautiful teen DD & 2 angels in heaven & married to my best friend

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Registered: 05-14-1999
Tue, 08-09-2011 - 4:24pm
I tell you what, I have a friend I've known for 20 years. Out of the blue, she emailed and asked if she had done something to offend me. I wasn't put off by her email in the least. I felt horrible that she thought I was upset with her(I obviously wasn't). I think we'd played some phone tag and each had a lot going on at the time. Anyway, for some reason, that was her perception.

I think you should let your friend know how you're feeling.
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Registered: 04-19-2004
Tue, 08-09-2011 - 4:27pm

I think I would respond to emails asking to do something by giving her my schedule and a few ideas you are interested in and letting her know if any of those work to contact you.

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Registered: 03-16-2004
Tue, 08-09-2011 - 8:19pm

Hi Cowboys grl-

I would have offered to pay for her lunch if she really seemed like she wanted to go out. But, the when she said she "had to save her pennies" and couldn't afford lunch (or anything else, per her)

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Registered: 06-16-1998
Tue, 08-09-2011 - 8:27pm

It does sound like she is avoiding you. As for what to do, here are a couple of possible approaches:

The first is to trust your intuition

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