Friend vs. Fiance
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|Mon, 01-07-2013 - 11:58am|
Ok so I'm going to make this very, verly long story short.
My friend, let's call her Bee, is a far left liberal, mwhile I tend to be conservative. We're both 24 and 25, met Freshman year in high school and have been dysfunctional best friends ever since. I say dysfunctional because we've always been total opposites. In high school we didn't even run with the same group of friends. Like at all! But we've always been very close and have told eachother everything.
Over the years we've grown apart in distance, as we now live in different cities, but we still talk most every day. It's jus tthat the past couple years we've grown apart in other ways as well. The thing is, I can deal with our opposite views on.. everything. And we do have opposite views on everything. Whaty makes me angry and resentful is her judgement towards me. She judges me all the time because I tend to be traditional in my ideals. I'm getting married this October and ultimately I want to have children, and while they're young I'd like to be a stay at home mom (if we can do that, financially). And she just judges me for that, she thinks she's better than me.
She's gay, always has been. That's never changed anything between us (she didn't know she was gay when we met.. but I did! lol). I've never been self conscious that people were thinking we were "together," I've never cared. She's "out there." Everyday I get some crazy text from her.. and the only reason it annoys me is because if I were to text her about how my fiance and I shared a quiet night at home, she'd think I was some bore.
Anyways, she and my fiance got into a debate on facebook last night. It was a debate inw hich my fiance didn't disagree with her, he just disagreed with the wasy in which she communicated her message. And she unfriended him. If you're not into facebook, that's kind of a major thing, I mean you can always just hide someone's newsfeed or just ignore them- especially when they're the fiance of your best friend. She was supposed to be in my wedding party but I just don't think I want someone standing up there who can bear to be FACEBOOK friends with my fiance. I;m not even asking her to genuinely like him or be REAL freinds with him. Not only that I feel like she'd be standing up there with me thinking I'm a fool for getting into this traditional marriage thing.
And now she's texting me like there's nothing wrong. Should I say somehting? Like, "hey I know you unfriended my fiance and that's kinda lame dude, you can't just ignore his posts or soemthing? he tolerates you!' What should I do?