friend who dumped me.. feeling confused

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Registered: 02-04-2010
friend who dumped me.. feeling confused
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Thu, 09-02-2010 - 4:01am

Hi,


This is sort of long as its a situation I allowed to continue for about 2 years. I made a new friend 2 years ago and invited into her my home, and life. She was v unhappily married and I never knew what a narcissistic type was until now, but she has all the characteristics of that personality. I found her interesting and fun to be with but she became obsessed with this guy that I know who is not bright and she is. He also happens to be incredibly unbelievably wealthy, or the family is, and she eventually got what she wants which is him. It didnt seem to matter that 2 families and 4 children will all end up with divorced parents who

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Registered: 11-13-2009
Thu, 09-02-2010 - 10:07am

You shouldn't be too surprised that she used you, and now has dumped you.

 

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Registered: 06-26-2006
Thu, 09-02-2010 - 7:09pm

This woman has many character issues. I really hope you don't let her back into your life when her new romance sours (and it will, because if he'll cheat with her, he'll cheat on her). This sort of thing happened to me too. I had a friend who was never married and she relentlessly chased a married man. Like your friend, she found me "unsupportive" when she finally landed the guy. He got separated and promised he would get divorced, so they can marry. That

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Registered: 02-04-2010
Sun, 09-05-2010 - 10:18pm

Thank you for your helpful ideas and insights into this " friend".. your words have helped me a lot, and I will definitely be more careful to choose my friends next time, and think about who I invite into my home and life.

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Registered: 06-26-2006
Mon, 09-06-2010 - 1:39pm
You're welcome. I hope you're starting to feel better. It gets easier with time. Living without the drama helps make things easier too, once you get over the shock and hurt. The other day, my friend said "hurting people hurt people". She may be with the guy now, but I'm sure she's feeling very insecure about her place in his life and whether or not this relationship can last.

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Tue, 09-07-2010 - 6:41pm

I agree with cat and the others.

Liz


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Registered: 09-08-2008
Tue, 09-14-2010 - 4:45pm
I haven't been on the board in a long while but have been reading the last few days since I'm kinda struggling with some of these same issues.