friend won't stop talking about "abuse"!!
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|Mon, 01-24-2011 - 8:19pm|
My fiancee & I live together. One night, about a year ago, I strongly suspected that I accidentally let our cat out of the house... but I made no mention of it, until my fiancee noticed that she was missing almost 24 hours later and asked me when I'd last seen her. We found her in the backyard, hiding and scared. (I am so beyond ashamed of my actions. I was struggling with a major depressive episode at the time, but that's no excuse.) When I told my fiancee that I hadn't even bothered to look for the cat or tell him about it, he was struck with grief and more upset than I'd ever seen him in his life. He threw a small rubber ball at the wall behind me (he was aiming nowhere near me -- believe me, he has really good aim in sports, so I am positive of this). Then, with a door separating us, he threw a small dog toy very hard at our door. He never touched me in any way, either with an object or with his hand, and made no threats towards me, either. My former best friend proclaimed him a "physical abuser." I can tell you with 10000% honesty that he has never gotten physical, ever, in our 10-year relationship. And since that incident last year, absolutely nothing even remotely physical has even happened... the man does not even yell or scream or call me names when he is arguing... ever!!! I am so frustrated because it doesn't seem that I could ever get this girl to change her mind and stop slandering his name to everyone we both know. My other friends completely stand behind me, despite her best efforts to change their opinions, but I am just so frustrated.