Friends' Children

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Registered: 11-06-2001
Friends' Children
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Sun, 07-17-2011 - 10:58am

Hello,

Yesterday, I had a get together with my friends and their families at my house.

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Registered: 02-14-2004
Sun, 07-24-2011 - 8:32pm

Friendships do change over time and once you're out of college and living an adult life, it often happens that people move on.

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Registered: 11-06-2001
Fri, 07-22-2011 - 9:05pm

I did not take it away because they were having so much fun with it, and I didn't want to ruin their fun.

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Registered: 02-14-2004
Tue, 07-19-2011 - 12:30am
If I were inviting 11 kids from 8 months to 10 years old, I'd have hired a neighborhood teenager to keep an eye on things. That way the little ones wouldn't be in danger of putting something in their mouth and choking and somebody could oversee the playing so there weren't any fights or any parts going missing. I think it would make the party a whole lot more fun for you and the other parents to have the kids overseen.

The teenager could encourage the kids to pick up when they've finished with something or even pick things up as she goes...or have her stay long enough afterwards to do the picking up for you. You have enough to do to clean up after the adult portion of the party. Seems a teen helper would be worth the cost next time.

As for the chess piece, I vote for a group email sent to everybody asking if they could ask their kids if they possibly put the chess piece somewhere that you haven't found yet. That way everybody will know to watch out for the piece and nobody will feel singled out.
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Registered: 11-13-2009
Mon, 07-18-2011 - 12:59pm
When you saw the girls playing with the chess pieces, and you feared what might happen, why didn't you take it away from them and put the set away?

And I like the PP's idea of e-mailing everyone.

 

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Registered: 04-19-2004
Mon, 07-18-2011 - 12:19pm

This happens all the time.

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Registered: 04-21-2008
Mon, 07-18-2011 - 11:31am

How about sending a mass eMail to all the moms to keep an eye out for that piece, so it doesn't look like your are singling out or making accusations!

ITA -- This is what I was thinking, too!

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Registered: 02-25-2002
Mon, 07-18-2011 - 9:11am

This is what I think....jmo...11 children is not a playdate, it's a party. After a *playdate* you might expect help with cleanup. After a *party*, not necessarily, with the exception of good friends who may offer to help. You live and learn. Kids make messes. They go from one thing to another at the speed of light. Its unlikely someone stole one chess piece (but, you never know), it could be in the wrong box or in another room...

I think it's great that your kids have friends and that you do fun things together...focus on that...clean up the mess, and next time, and hopefully, there will be a next time, hide stuff with small pieces (better off with young ones, anyhoo, 8 month olds still put things in their mouths) and just put out what you want them to touch.

How about sending a mass eMail to all the moms to keep an eye out for that piece, so it doesn't look like your are singling out or making accusations!

Again, JMO, and have fun next time!

 

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Registered: 06-16-1998
Sun, 07-17-2011 - 9:42pm

I like ohearto's wording of "where is the last place they saw the chess piece" because it doesn't accuse anyone of taking it, just says that its not with the rest of the set. Maybe one of them stashed it under the tv or someplace like that, or maybe it went into a pocket and now the parent will know what it is and where it came from. Hopefully it will get reunited with the set.

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Registered: 05-14-1999
Sun, 07-17-2011 - 12:14pm

I persnally wouldn't go out of my way to call and ask, but instead mention it in passing. Try to not make accusations. For example, you could say: "Hey, after everyone left Saturday night, I found that one of my sons chess pieces is missing. You haven't by any chance seen it laying around in the back seat of your car or anything have you?" I don't see why anyone would take offense to that question. Like you, if it had been me, I would have had my children tidy up the play room before leaving. I doubt any of your friends left it that way on purpose, however. They were probably just focussed on getting their kids home and in bed. Perhaps the next time you have them over, you could sneak down before everyone starts grabbing their belongings and urge the kids to tidy up a little.

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Registered: 03-30-2007
Sun, 07-17-2011 - 11:32am

I would call the parent(s) and ask them to ask their DD where they last saw the chess piece.