Gaining forgiveness from a friend.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-06-2011
Gaining forgiveness from a friend.
Mon, 06-06-2011 - 5:51pm

I haven't spoken to my best friend in nearly a year.

When I say best friend what I really mean is the person who knew me better than anyone.

I lied to her and was found out. I apologized but it didn't seem to do much good.

We were meant to go on a girls weekend with 3 other girls and I cancelled at the last minute saying my ticket hadn't arrived. What really happened was that I couldn't afford the ticket as at the time I was having severe money troubles. I have a very well paid job and everyone assumes I am a high flyer but the reality is I got myself into some bad debt at university that I am still dealing with and it sort of came to a head last August. Rather than telling my friend this I lied so I could save face, embarrassed that I had a money problem. She wasn't happy that I didn't go away but went with other friends and suspected I was lying. I told her sister a contradictory lie to cover my tracks and it all unraveled and I told my best friend the truth telling her I was ashamed to admit to her I had a money problem. Her response was I shouldn't be ashamed of my debt and that I should be ashamed of the fact I lied to someone I called my best friend. And that was that, I didn't know what to say and we haven't spoken since.

Not a day goes by when I don't think of her or miss her. There is such a huge gapping hole in my life. I want to try and communicate but I'm petrified.

She originally blocked me on facebook but now I can see her profile and comment on her pictures etc but I am not sure if I can interpret this as a good sign.

I don't want to be without her, she makes everything easier but I am scared of being rejected. I will never forget how cross she was with me.

Any advice would be gratefully received.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-19-2004
Thu, 06-09-2011 - 5:11am

Wow. I do not believe your lie was that bad. First of all, money issues are personal. Personal enough that I probably wouldnt' tell my bff who i have known for nearly 22 yrs.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-30-2007
Mon, 06-06-2011 - 8:17pm

The PP is correct.

You could try apoligizing again.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-29-2002
Mon, 06-06-2011 - 7:47pm

Sorry hun.

If this is a friend you want back though, I think it is time to step up and make contact.