Going up in smoke

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Registered: 04-11-2007
Going up in smoke
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Wed, 12-15-2010 - 7:11pm

Hello all!

Well I don't know if this is necessarily a vent but it is a situation I am quite frustrated with, having been dealing with for a while but only seems to be getting worse.

I live with my parents (it's just the three of us at home) and among us we don't have a lot of money. I've gotten used to going without things that I want which at my age (25) can be quite annoying but I am a simple person and don't ask for much anyway.


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Registered: 02-03-2008
Wed, 12-15-2010 - 9:36pm

Hi leetos,

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Registered: 03-11-2008
Wed, 12-15-2010 - 11:19pm

I feel your pain and I like the name of your post "going up in smoke". It grabbed my attention. Anyway, I have to agree with Lu on this one. My mother smoked two packs of unfiltered cigarettes a day, plus my brother and sister smoked too. No preaching will get smokers to stop. My mother's motto is "I work hard all

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Registered: 03-11-2008
Wed, 12-15-2010 - 11:21pm

Lu, congrats on the baby on the way.

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Registered: 11-24-2004
Thu, 12-16-2010 - 12:38pm

This is tough. You can't teach an old dog new tricks, so your chances of getting Dad to quit smoking are nil. Smoke is difficult to get rid of. I shared a wall once with neighbours. They smoked like chimneys. The smoke would woft through the walls and all my clothes had a faint smell of smoke. One would think I lived with a bunch of smokers. Then I bought an air purifier that worked great. The smell disappeared after that. Perhaps an air purifier in your room will at least help a little. Sure you don't want to spend everyday

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Registered: 11-24-2004
Thu, 12-16-2010 - 12:40pm

(some with four and six legs)

Roaches? :smileyvery-happy:

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Registered: 04-11-2007
Thu, 12-16-2010 - 12:45pm

Well actually my job was pretty well paying (I was a teacher) considering that I don't have rent or bills to pay or food to purchase or anything like that. However, it's not what I want to do with my life hence the acceptance of the scholarship. The scholarship is half of my teaching salary but I get to focus on what I enjoy doing. And it's a graduate degree programme so the extra courses don't apply in my case (or maybe even in my country lol). As it is I plan to migrate next year once I've completed my programme so I'm just trying to cope until then...

Moving out also not an option because of finances and saving for future plans...


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Registered: 03-11-2008
Thu, 12-16-2010 - 9:16pm
gingersnapelle wrote:

(some with four and six legs)

Roaches? :smileyvery-happy:

Hell no! Well,

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Registered: 03-11-2008
Thu, 12-16-2010 - 9:17pm

I guess you'll have to just hang in there then. What about an air purifier? Do you think that would help?

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Registered: 06-23-2003
Fri, 12-17-2010 - 4:41pm

I'm with the others...you aren't likely to get far with trying to get your dad to stop smoking...or drinking. I feel for you though. I don't like to be around smoking. It smells and it screws with my sinuses too. Have you ever tried a neti pot for your sinuses? They aren't too expensive. That would help to wash any smoke/polution/pollen/allergens out of your sinuses and nasal passages and maybe help with that issue.

As far as the health issue, it's not healthy to smoke or to drink in excess, but the way I see it, life is short anyway and we might as well enjoy it. If smoking improves your dad's quality of life, he might be ok with risking his quantity of life. Whatever his reasoning it's his choice to make. Unfortunately it's at the expense of your quality of life.

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Fri, 12-17-2010 - 4:58pm

Well I can't make him see any logic in stopping because as I said before he literally does NOT care about anyone. The drinking is going to reach a bad point I know because it's Christmas. Every single year without fail he buys a few bottles of alcohol and drinks them one after the other, non-stop and completely on his own as we don't have guests. It's sickening to see him drunk and have him smelling of alcohol and seeing him get angry because he accuses my mother or myself of eating something that he forgot he ate or something just as stupid.

I know the people who replied to my message basically said that if it's what he enjoys leave him but it's not that simple to know that