Greedy, maybe?

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Registered: 08-10-2010
Greedy, maybe?
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Tue, 08-16-2011 - 2:20pm

In the ‘Friendship’ section below I posted a couple threads about a friend I’ve had for a long time (decades) who has been controlling our communication (mainly phone calls), most likely because she’s under her husband’s thumb.

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Registered: 11-13-2009
Tue, 08-16-2011 - 4:26pm
That chick is whacked!

Maybe you "are" missing something... like she might not be so controlled by her DH, maybe she's a willing participant.

(yeah, I'm in a mood today)

 

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Registered: 08-10-2010
Tue, 08-16-2011 - 4:53pm

Hey, cat.alley, I hear ya.

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Registered: 06-16-1998
Tue, 08-16-2011 - 4:58pm

I'm pretty certain that in many or all states there can be no burial until there is a signed death certificate, so if they were going there for the funeral they'll need to wait. Is it possible that they felt obligated or otherwise compelled to attend his mother's funeral? Maybe its about money, or maybe its about another family member who wanted them there? IMO funerals are for the living, to find closure and support in a time of grieving. Maybe it makes the son's siblings, relatives, and family friends feel better to see the couple there and to think that they cared about his mother.

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Registered: 04-19-2004
Tue, 08-16-2011 - 5:18pm

I think all your gut feelings and the other posters gut feelings about what is really going on is spot on.

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Tue, 08-16-2011 - 5:21pm

Friend's dh has no siblings, no other close relatives,

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Tue, 08-16-2011 - 7:39pm
Who knows why they need to get a copy? Why does it even matter to you? You don't want to be friends with her; so, ignore her notes about going to Georgia for a certificate.

I will say that even though my dad hadn't talked to his mother for about 18 years, he still went to her funeral. Sometimes mourning the loss of hope that a relationship will improve is similar to mourning the loss of the person. Just because my dad didn't get along with his mother didn't mean that he wasn't sad when she died.

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Registered: 12-02-2008
Tue, 08-16-2011 - 8:21pm
It IS weird, but I completely agree with LIZMVR. If you want nothing to do with her, then why does any of this even make any difference to you?

Sounds like you are STILL unhappy with the way that your relationship with her turned out & you are now looking for ways to make her look like a nut --NOT THAT SHE'S NOT GIVING YOU PLENTY TO WORK WITH!!!


I have had a few of those friends. You try, you try, you get frustrated....you say you're done but nonetheless you're still frustrated or even mad! I totally get it....but don't let this wacky broad take up any more of your time!

Block her emails & be done with her!!
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Tue, 08-16-2011 - 9:58pm

lizmvr & helga – Believe it or not, I’m going to give thought to what you’ve said.

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Registered: 02-14-2004
Tue, 08-16-2011 - 11:23pm

>>(yeah, I'm in a mood today)<<

I can tell...and you're starting to frighten me a little!

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Registered: 02-14-2004
Tue, 08-16-2011 - 11:29pm

My daughter's best friend is Jewish, and there was some reason she had to quickly get her hands on the death certificate when her father died...some religious significance???

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