Grrr, food, food and more food
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|Tue, 11-11-2003 - 3:07pm|
So, my mom is spending both T-day and C-mass with my siser, but told me that she wasn't "choosing" not to be with us. Riiight, I guess its nothing personal. I do kind of mind that she chooses to spend both holidays with my sister and her family for two years in a row when she could easily spend Solstice with us, which is on the 22nd, and still make it down to TN in time for C-mass. But, who am I to tell her how to spend her holidays? I refuse to guilt her into being with us when she would obviously rather not be. What I would appreciate is some honesty about it.
So, to assuage any guilty feelings, she had us up for Dad's B-day and cooks us a turkey dinner. Now, DH and I eat more West Coast than Down Home. We use lots of fresh ingredients, lots of herbs, very few carbs because we are at risk for diabetes, and lots of creativity, while mom has two veggies from a can, meat and potatoes, and always bread and gravy at most meals. We usually go for quality rather than quantity. I know, she is from a different era, but it doesn't make it any easier to swallow. I know for a fact that she is capable of cooking differently, because she does occasionally try with excellent results, but her efforts are always surrounded by the traditional heavy meal. When we are there for dinner, she goes all out and cooks for 10 poeople, or my sister's family. There are only four in my sister's family, but they are all obese, and really know how to pack it in. The food is usually good, but way too heavy, and way too much for my bunch. This always happens, so why does she always do the same thing? My 14yo DS is the only one who goes back for seconds while DH, DD and I load up on the salad (she makes great salads). She ends up with lots of leftovers and gets really offended that we didn't eat every last drop of food. So, she sends it home with us where it rots in my fridge instead of hers. Can't say "no thanks" because she is already offended that we didn't eat it in the first place. Right now, I have tons of turkey, some of which I plan on making soup out of, a quart of gravy and just as much stuffing, an entire pumpkin pie, and half of a chocolate cake. Did I menton that DH and I are trying to loose weight? So we go, we eat, and we are miserable for two days!
Did I menton that pumpkin pie is my specialty, and that mom has made the pumpkin pie thing into a compitition? I took over pumpking pie making when I was 10 because it was my favorite pie/food of all time. Mine comes from a pumpkin rather than a can, and is excellent, while hers crunches, yes, crunches, and I am not talking about the crust. Doesn't matter that no one eats hers, she has to make the first pie, and will bring at least one pumpkin pie even if she knows that I am doing the pies and that hers will go uneaten while mine will dissapear. Then she sends them home with me. The same goes for cranberry sauce. I make mine from real cranberrys, but it doesn't matter if she knows that I am making it, she will still open a can of cranberry sauce, and then she eats mine while no one touches the can shaped red gelatiinous mass that was probably cranberry at one time. I guess habits die hard.
Oh, yeah, my brother is only going to be up for 3 days rather than five so that he can spend time with his son over the weekend. It is of course MY fault that he won't be able to see my children because I insist that they spend T-day with me rather than at mom's house. I guess we all have our priorities.