Help, am I socially inept or are they?
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|Mon, 07-07-2003 - 3:20pm|
My issue is many but first, is it "normal" that the inlaws rarely call and some never at all? These people are my DH's brother and sisters and they don't call him to chat either. Weird? DH mom and dad call to chat with him and rarely with me and never with my DD & DS. What gives? I call them but some never return it at all-no exageration. A little history. DH moved to out of state after college, married me, had kids, living away from them for 8 yrs. We move back to DH's home state and no one said anything for at least a month after we moved. No help adjusting to the new place. I had no friends and DH's family sure didn't help. My DD had cancer removed from knee and even then they showed very little concern. It was no big deal, just like our presence in this state. I was raised by a single "bar-fly" mother and related only with my brother so I do not have much referrence in dealing with family issues. High self asteem is a problem at times becaus of this.
I am invited to be a Brides Maid in a wedding of the sister in-law that never returns calls and interestingly, I found out that I was in the wedding through another family member. Furthermore, sister in-law did not formally invite my DH in wedding; I just found out because my mother in-law was asking for his shirt size and I asked why. This wedding is in 8 weeks, the planning has been in the works for two months. Is this behavior odd or am I missing something?
I have a Bachelorette Party to attend which is 24 hours long with various activities and I will be alone with these women whom do not converse with me beyond the weather. They converse about people and places that I know nothing about. They grew up together, went to college together and I have no history with them. Can't they see that they leave me out of the conversations all of the time? I don't know how to say this to them diplomatically and I am concerned they will not validate my concerns anyway. Any advice to phsych my self asteem up to make it through the party? BTW, after two years of this social environment, DH & I have decided to leave the state. He is sad, hurt & angry too that his own family can't socialize with him. Thanks for any replies to this.