Help - Excluded from family Easter plans?

It was six weeks ago, my son and I and his wife were talking about when would be a good time for me to come over for a visit. They had just bought a new house and wanted me to see it. At that time I talked to them about just getting together for Easter at their place and seeing who else we could get to come, also.

In the meanwhile, we made plans for me to come over for just a short weekend visit a couple of weeks ago and hitch a ride with him so i wouldn't have to drive the whole way by myself. Those plans were cancelled because he ended up having to work and could not go home that weekend.

Now, next I hear, from my grandchild, that plans have been made for everyone to come over for Easter, and he invited his Dad but not me. For the past 30 years that we have been divorced, unless it is a familly celebration like a wedding, graduation, etc we usually alternate holiday get-togethers)

Actually, last night he called trying to reach his sister to let her know that her step Mom's elderly brother -in-law had just passed.

So, I did say, " I heard we are all getting together for Easter at your house after all." He said, "you are welcome to come over. Now, however, with the death of his relative, he said he didn't know now what would be happening for Easter, so I said let me know. so, it is up in the air.

Last night he also told me that that weekend he will be getting out of the Army and packing up the rest of his stuff and making his last three hour weekend trip to where his family lives. So, I won't be able to get a ride with him.

So, Easter weekend will also be a celebration of him getting out of the Army and a rare time when all my grandkids are together at the same time.

Yes, i feel hurt that even though we had talked previously about getting together for Easter, plans were made for having Easter at his house without me and i heard about it after it was settled with everyone else.