Help - Excluded from family Easter plans?

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Registered: 07-10-2002
Help - Excluded from family Easter plans?
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Mon, 04-11-2011 - 2:28pm

Hi,

Just need some feedback about how to proceed.

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Registered: 07-10-2002
Tue, 04-12-2011 - 9:36pm
Well, how nice planning on getting everyone together for a holiday would be. This is the first time that all my grandkids have been together at any holiday. My oldest are 9 and 12 yo. I've been talking about it for years.
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Tue, 04-12-2011 - 9:19pm
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Tue, 04-12-2011 - 5:08pm
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Tue, 04-12-2011 - 2:09pm
It was six weeks ago, my son and I and his wife were talking about when would be a good time for me to come over for a visit. They had just bought a new house and wanted me to see it. At that time I talked to them about just getting together for Easter at their place and seeing who else we could get to come, also.

In the meanwhile, we made plans for me to come over for just a short weekend visit a couple of weeks ago and hitch a ride with him so i wouldn't have to drive the whole way by myself. Those plans were cancelled because he ended up having to work and could not go home that weekend.

Now, next I hear, from my grandchild, that plans have been made for everyone to come over for Easter, and he invited his Dad but not me. For the past 30 years that we have been divorced, unless it is a familly celebration like a wedding, graduation, etc we usually alternate holiday get-togethers)

Actually, last night he called trying to reach his sister to let her know that her step Mom's elderly brother -in-law had just passed.

So, I did say, " I heard we are all getting together for Easter at your house after all." He said, "you are welcome to come over. Now, however, with the death of his relative, he said he didn't know now what would be happening for Easter, so I said let me know. so, it is up in the air.

Last night he also told me that that weekend he will be getting out of the Army and packing up the rest of his stuff and making his last three hour weekend trip to where his family lives. So, I won't be able to get a ride with him.

So, Easter weekend will also be a celebration of him getting out of the Army and a rare time when all my grandkids are together at the same time.

Yes, i feel hurt that even though we had talked previously about getting together for Easter, plans were made for having Easter at his house without me and i heard about it after it was settled with everyone else.
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Registered: 11-13-2009
Tue, 04-12-2011 - 11:37am
I could be wrong, but I thought she meant to have an early Easter with the grandkids...

 

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Registered: 04-21-2008
Tue, 04-12-2011 - 11:12am

Hi Karen and welcome.

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Registered: 10-29-2006
Tue, 04-12-2011 - 7:05am

I'm a little confused...

"About 6 weeks ago, I'd started a conversation with my son about going over for a visit to see them and

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Registered: 11-13-2009
Tue, 04-12-2011 - 2:17am
Oh, you're right. Easter has slipped up on me. We're having ours THIS weekend! I better get on the ball.

If I were you, I'd call and not bother writing. Maybe not bring it up at first, see if your son brings it up first.

I don't blame you for feeling like you've been left out. I hope it's not that way.

 

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Registered: 07-10-2002
Mon, 04-11-2011 - 4:11pm
Well, Easter is only 13 days away. Leaving for that trip would be only 10 days away and I have 6 grandkids that I would want to put together Easter stuff for, plus everything else that I would need to do to leave.

The other kid who lives in Utah and is visiting in the area for a few weeks, said they were going to his house for easter and told me who else was going to be there. The kids with their kids.

I said, " That's great. M and I had talked about us getting together for Easter about a month ago. Then, I'll see you next at Easter.

But, I did feel left out of the loop when i heard that.
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Registered: 11-13-2009
Mon, 04-11-2011 - 3:11pm
You only heard over the weekend about the Easter gathering. I wouldn't say anything yet. I'd sit back and wait to see if you get an invitation. I'd think if one of your other kids told you about it, that it was just a given you were invited.