Helping friends who lost their job
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|Sun, 12-26-2010 - 9:13pm|
My DH has befriended a couple he met through church. The husband in the couple lost his job over a year ago. Since then, the church has given him & his wife lots of money to help them out. He is still unemployed. My DH invited them over to our home once for dinner, I met the wife. We both have children the same age. Our group at church took up a money collection for them, they always take the money. I graciously offered her some of my child's outgrown clothing (nice, in good shape) and she turned her nose up at that. Since that dinner, though she refuses to socialize with me, talk to me, and has made her disdain for me quite apparent since then. She refused offers to get together for playdates with the kids. However, my DH continues the friendship with her husband. He helps him out, drives him to the airport, they see each other quite often. He talks constantly about this man and how he hopes he will get a job soon. Lately, I have suspicions that my DH has given this family money, without consulting me first. I am not sure how much $$ was given. I have problems with it on many levels, first that we have a family of our own to care for, and also the wife of this man snubbed me, continues to snub me, and turns her nose up whenever I see her. I told my DH that I am not okay with giving them our money. I've also asked him, is there a reason this man can't just do any job? He's been unemployed for 15 months or so. Keeps looking for the same high-paying job he used to have, but can't find it. Now my DH expects me to help petsit for them while they are away. Hey, I love animals, but I can't see taking care of this woman's dog when she has treated me the way she has. What is interesting to me, is that they act socially superior to people, but eagerly take charity from them at the same time. That just gets me.
He sort of just told me that I would be doing the pet sitting, he didn't ask. It led to an argument and I finally blew up at him. I really want these people out of our lives permanently, but they attend our church, my husband is friends with them, I don't know what to do.