Holiday gift giving

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Holiday gift giving
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Thu, 12-04-2003 - 8:48am

How do you handle gift giving in your family.

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Thu, 12-04-2003 - 9:20am

It is funny but I do not feel like I have to follow any rules when it comes to gift giving.

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Thu, 12-04-2003 - 9:27am
We exchange gifts at home between our family (DH, me, 2 DD's aged 5 yrs and 5 months). We also exchange gifts with our parents, siblings, their spouses and children. DH's two older sisters are the exception, as they do not participate in the gift exchange, but we always buy a little something for their sons anyhow. They do not buy gifts for our daughters but honestly I am fine with that. We really do not have a lot of extended family. We don't exchange gifts with any of our grandparents, uncles, aunts, etc, as the ones we do have we are not at all close to and rarely see. We just send a Christmas card. The rest of our gift list is mainly friends and DH's work colleagues. We give them all something and they usually give us something also - but more like gift certificates, wine, gourmet baskets - nothing really personal. If it were all up to me, I would cut out all of that as it seems merely a show of wealth. I couldn't even count all of the stuff like that we have thrown out over the years. Sad, really.
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Thu, 12-04-2003 - 11:26pm

I a curious about the giving presents to colleagues.

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Thu, 12-04-2003 - 11:39pm
Melissa, to answer your question, I am afraid I might not be much help because I am not in the workforce (I'm a SAHM) and DH is not exactly in the corporate "office job" world either. DH and I are co-owners of an optical clinic. There are three partners, two optometrists (of which DH is one) and one MD who does their RK laser surgery. So DH & I give gifts to those two partners, the four opticians, two assistants, and receptionist. Then gifts also go to friends of his from the Chamber of Commerce. We have spent as little as $15 or as much as $70 on each gift, it varies pretty drastically but most years we give the same gift all around so no one feels slighted (hopefully).
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Fri, 12-05-2003 - 6:16pm
I buy gifts for close family members - husband, parents, grandparents, in-laws, siblings, niece, nephews, a couple of close cousins, and a few close friends. That adds up to about 20 people. Most people I spend about $10-25, a little more for parents and my husband. I don't buy gifts for the extended family, but I send them cards. This works for us.
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Fri, 12-05-2003 - 7:49pm
Every other year we've bought gifts for everyone in the family (sisters/brothers/and their families and our parents). This year on both sides of the family, we've decided to buy one gift per couple (max $30) and hold an exchange plus one white elephant gift (defined as a nice object you currently own but no longer use--I'm giving department 56 houses). We all buy for the kids (max $30). We send Christmas cards to everyone else. I've been wanting to do this for a while because I've found it incredibly stressful and expensive plus we really don't need anything any more (if we want it we buy it). Typically, we've spent around $700! just on the adults. I buy some work gifts but typically spend less than $10 (candles, ornaments, etc.). We also give small gifts to our neighbors (krispy kreme donuts for our Jewish and non-Christian neighbors, poinsettas for the Christian neighbors).
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Mon, 12-08-2003 - 1:11am

I like how you asked that question! To not only ask "what" we do for holiday gift-giving and what we'd like to change about it, but going one step further: making a PLAN to make it happen! I'm reminded of some advice once from a former employer: "If you're going to complain about something,

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Wed, 12-10-2003 - 12:14pm

This has been on my mind lately.

 

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Wed, 12-10-2003 - 3:44pm

There are so few "giving" people in the world today.

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Thu, 12-11-2003 - 8:11am
Im pretty happy w/ the way we handle it. In my family nobody buys for e/o except like my dad, mom, sis, and I buy for e/o. And we usually get a couple things for my grandma. But the aunts, uncles, cousins dont buy for e/o and Im very glad b-cuz like 1/2 of them are really materialistic and would be so picky and the other 1/2 are the type that would take what u give them and not get u anything (I know thats not the pt. but it makes a lot of probs so Im glad it doesnt happen). Mainly the ppl I buy for other that my dad, mom, sis, are all of my friends and the 2 cousins Im super close to. I like the way we do it.

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