How do I support my sister?

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-28-2011
How do I support my sister?
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Tue, 06-28-2011 - 9:10pm

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-12-2011
Wed, 07-06-2011 - 12:01am

You support her by being there for her. I was in a bad relationship years ago, my husband had me closed off from the rest of my family and I was not my usual happy self. My sister lived in another

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-22-2004
Sun, 07-03-2011 - 11:54pm

The second commandment states to love our neighbor, as you love yourself. It doesn't´t say love your neighbor, but don´t love yourself. Your sister is not loving her, taking his H violence. Violence is in essence the opposite of love.

Not sure how long she has been married, but if she accepted this behavior since the beginning, I feel inclined to think that your sister might have had for a long time low self esteem issues. Accepting that violence might have taken her to a lower point. So, she needs all the support she can get, but first of all

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-22-2004
Sun, 07-03-2011 - 11:41pm
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-14-2004
Fri, 07-01-2011 - 11:47am

There

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-28-2011
Fri, 07-01-2011 - 11:19am
Christian advice would be for her to flee and then charge her so called husband with battery. Next is a divorce attorney. No where in the Bible does YahWeh demand a woman and her kids stay in this type of environment. Id also get some of the church brothers to teach this poor excuse for a man a nice brotherly lesson with a 2by4
Community Leader
Registered: 01-03-2004
Thu, 06-30-2011 - 10:23am

French,

Hi. Your sister is a victim of domestic violence. She needs to get in touch with either a local hotline or call the National Domestic Violence Hotline 1800-799-7233. They will know how to help her and what she should do. And, she should not be ashamed of calling, Domestic Violence cuts across all social and economic levels. All kinds of people are victims. All kinds are abusers.

Keep encouraging her to get help. If you can provide her with a place to stay or make calls for her that would be great. However, your sister must decide what she wants help and to stop the cycle of violence.

Good luck.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-05-2007
Wed, 06-29-2011 - 11:33am
Would it be possible for you to find a pastor of her same faith who would be willing to talk to her? I am Christian (Lutheran), and pretty well versed in the different brands, and not one true Christian church would want her to stay in an abusive relationship- let alone one where she's being raped. Yes, even if it's her husband, if she says no, it's rape.

Good luck!
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-28-2011
Wed, 06-29-2011 - 8:38am

I agree I am taking your advice and making the opportunity available today. Hopefully, since she reached out to me, she is ready to flee and take the next step. I agree with you statement that nothing about the entire situation is Christian. Thanks for your reply. I will keep you updated.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-29-2002
Tue, 06-28-2011 - 11:26pm

Is there a way you can make arrangements for an open ended ticket for her, or at least an opportunity to flee

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