how do i un-invite friend to bday party?

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how do i un-invite friend to bday party?
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Sun, 08-21-2011 - 8:47pm

i wrote about this friend before http://forums.ivillage.com/t5/All-in-the-Family/Is-she-out-of-line-or-am-i-overreacting/m-p/117957539#M29925

turns out she isn't leaving town and is here for another year.

she's my friend but is driving me mad still.

tonite we were talking and

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Registered: 08-22-2011
Mon, 08-22-2011 - 2:08am

Just say that the party was pospone and you did'nt know where and when it can be held, just teel to your friends too. or you can ssay to her a different venue, so that she would'nt know where your party will be held.

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Mon, 08-22-2011 - 6:54am

im going from ireland to italy for the

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Mon, 08-22-2011 - 12:15pm
Will any of these mutual friends be in attendance? If so, if you un-invite her she is definitely going to be offended.

I wouldn't lie to her, that will just complicate things. I would just (assuming your mutual friends aren't coming) explain that it isn't a good time for her to visit, that too much will be going on, and you won't have ANY time to devote to her. I would ask her to plan to come another time, when the two of you can relax and really enjoy catching up.
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Mon, 08-22-2011 - 12:49pm

Actually, it doesn’t sound like you like her much at all.

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Mon, 08-22-2011 - 1:49pm

Yeah, I agree about the friendship....

But Curly wants to keep her as a friend, and I imagine telling her that she p*sses her off and she doesn't want her there won't help! ;)

I'd tell her, "sorry, not this time. it just won't work. i promise we'll go soon together." Shampoo and repeat as necessary. And who cares if the last statement is true, ya know?

 

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Mon, 08-22-2011 - 1:50pm
I dunno if I could tell her she "pisses" me off. But I do agree that OP shouldn't really lie to the friend. The truth always comes out!!!

I think if OP's friend brings it up again....and she's too scared to tell her what's really on her mind....then she needs to give a vague/ambiguous answer, such as, "NOW ISN'T A GOOD TIME" and then leave it at that!!!
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Mon, 08-22-2011 - 5:33pm

I think I agree w/ the poster(s) who have commented what kind of friendship is this?

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Mon, 08-22-2011 - 6:26pm

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Mon, 08-22-2011 - 10:31pm

Umm, so what's good about this friend that you want to keep her as a friend? You've only known her for 2 months and already there's a long list of negatives. And now you can add pushy, insensitive, and overbearing.

With someone this self-absorbed I think you need to be blunt with them. Tell her flat out that you do not want her to come to your party. Do not give her any contact info or addresses or names. Do not put it on FB where she can find it. If she decides to travel to Italy and try to find you and your party you cannot prevent it, but you shouldn't make it easy for her.

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Registered: 08-22-2011
Mon, 08-22-2011 - 10:38pm

Hmm. I think you should say the truth from her, your feelings, if she is your true

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