How do you.....?

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Registered: 10-26-2005
How do you.....?
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Fri, 01-28-2011 - 11:16am

Get a close loved one to quit getting mad at you when they are having a difficult time.

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Registered: 03-30-2007
Fri, 01-28-2011 - 11:27am

How's that working for you?

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Registered: 10-26-2005
Fri, 01-28-2011 - 1:51pm

LOL, Absolutely!

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Registered: 12-02-2008
Fri, 01-28-2011 - 2:29pm
I have to say....I agree with all of Ohearto's suggestions!!!!!! I love the idea of handing him PMS meds!!!!! LMAO!!!!!


Or you could....start whining right back at him!!! If he's whining about his back, tell him abt your shoulder; if he's whining about work, you whine about yours.....and when he doesn't get what you're doing & why....tell him that's how he sounds!! Maybe seeing how he's behaving will snap him out of it!!!

Good luck!!!
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Registered: 11-24-2004
Fri, 01-28-2011 - 3:28pm

You really can't "get" anyone to do anything (or not do anything). They are the only ones who control their actions. You have to decide if you can live with him during his bad moments. If you can't, file those divorce papers.

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Registered: 03-30-2007
Fri, 01-28-2011 - 3:40pm

I do feel for you.

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Registered: 10-26-2005
Fri, 01-28-2011 - 3:46pm

Yep, his dad has OCD and he has it too -some.

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Registered: 02-14-2004
Fri, 01-28-2011 - 7:42pm

Is your husband being treated for his sleep apnea?

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Registered: 03-11-2008
Fri, 01-28-2011 - 11:32pm

Wow! I can't imagine how someone's sleep is affected because they stop breathing and probably wake up several times a night. I heard this usually affects overweight people. OP your DH has to get some help in that area. I don't know how you can convince him though.

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Registered: 10-12-2004
Sat, 01-29-2011 - 10:05pm
Wow. Are we married to the same man? lol

My dh is a great person but he suffers from chronic depression & when he is feeling down then everything is someone else fault. That someone is normally me. After 35 yrs of marriage I have learned to tune him out when he gets like this. Sometimes, I lose it when I'm tired & tell him off which normally creates a major battle which then moves into a logical discussion then into deciding on how to deal with these issues better in the future & then the fun of making up! It's a circle of life, I tell him. I would prefer to just move to the making up part!

I find it frustrating to listen to DH blame everyone but himself but for me his wonderful qualities outweigh the bad & so I will keep him. Suggest you decide if it's worth it to stay. Sometimes when it gets to be too much, I grab a good book, hop in the car & drive to a nice restful spot for a few hrs of reading. Sometimes, I find a restful spot that serves yummy deserts.

Good luck! Dee
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Registered: 01-22-2004
Sun, 01-30-2011 - 10:20am

He seems to not be able to take responsibility for his own vulnerability. e.g. Feeling tired, having a

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