How to handle Adult children fighting
For the most part my 3 kids get along. However, sometimes they get into some really nasty arguments usually over stupid things. I hate to see this and try to mediate which only seems to make things worse. My younger two had an argument last week and my son ranted about how he was not going to get his sister anything for Christmas. She of course said then she wouldn't get him anything. I didn't want to have any stress over the holidays so I tried to make them apologize to each other. Of course, I can never learn my lesson and by trying to intervene it just made it worse. I know of many families where siblings have not spoken to each other in years and it would kill me if that happened to my kids. How do you handle it when your adult kids fight???
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That's how my mum was. Sometimes mediating between two people, it seems like you're taking sides. Or if one side doesn't want you to intervene, then they take it as you're taking the other person's side by intervening for him / her. As my mother got older, she didn't have the energy to intervene anymore and she stopped. She got into a lot less trouble that way. :smileyhappy: I think the kids will work out things for themselves. They're adults and should be handling things like adults.
Thanks, I know I should stay out of it but I have this fantasy of "One big happy family". It seems like everyone I know has family issues. Does a family that gets along with each other and is respectful to each other exist anymore???
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Thanks for the input. That is my problem, I have to learn not to lose sleep over it. When I don't know about it they must resolve it themselves. When I know I worry and try to make everything alright. I wish I had butted out this time, now it will probably be worse over the holidays.
Hope it all works out....
Now, you say they normally get along, but fight over something "stupid". You are better off than a lot of families. I know people who haven't spoken to a sibling in years, because they fought over something "big". Be happy that for the most part, they do get along.
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