How much help would you offer?
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|Tue, 06-17-2003 - 11:58pm|
My sister married a man, knowing he was an alcoholic and wouldn't work. They have a 4 YO girl together. Since this man has refused to change, she has decided to divorce him.
My sister makes $2000.00 a year too much for help with day care, per the government. She works 6 days a week, 60+ hours, all weekends and holidays, some overnights. On her day off, she occasionally has mandatory meetings she has to attend. She could demote herself, but she would lose all of her benefits and make significantly less than the $2000.00 it would take for her to qualify for day care help, thus, not making it cost effective.
Anyway, here is where I enter the picture. She has asked me if I can babysit for free as I am self-employed, make my own hours, and work approximately 25-30 a week. Most of the family lives out of town, except for a grandmother who is still working full-time, so there would be no help that way.
My typical babysitting schedule would look like this:
Mondays - Noon to 11 p.m.
Tuesdays - off (except when she has meetings)
Wednesday through Sunday - 6:30 a.m. to 4:30 p.m.
All holidays - 8 to 10 hours
One overnight a month
I ask - WHEN am I supposed to work myself when I am babysitting all the time, these hours? Not to mention, I have two children of my own ages 12 and 8 who need my time and attention also. Plus, I am not used to having to watch children "like a hawk" all the time because my kids are older now, but you have to with a 4 YO.
My sister's only alternative is to sell her house and move in with our mom (the one who works full-time) so she can afford day care.
So let me ask all of you this - how much help would you offer if you were in this situation?