How much time do you spend with family/in laws
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|Sun, 07-07-2013 - 8:02pm|
This is my first time here, so I am really hoping to hear some opinions on my situation. I have been married for two years and a half now. Both my family and my husband's family live in the same town, all about 10 minutes from each other. My mother has always been controlling and overbearing but ever since I got married there is this guilt I carry because I don't spend all my time with her. My dad works outside the state currently and my mother stays mostly here (my brother and his wife live in their house). When my mother or both my parents are here I visit them at least once a week, and I am with them for hours. Many times I go straight after work and stay until 10 or 10:30 at night. But even though I visit my mother once a week, she is always asking for me to visit more. She makes comments such as you don;t see me enough, and always asks, are you coming over again this week? can you stop by again I have something I want to show you or give you. My husband's family is pretty cool and never pressure us to visit, thank God. But I feel like no matter how often I go, my mother always wants more, it;s never enough. For example this past week,on Thursday I spent hours with her and my bro and sister in law at the mall (leaving my husband home), then later the same day I saw her later for the 4th of July fireworks. On Saturday my husband and I went out to dinner with her and my bro and sister in law. When I was leaving she asks me when am I coming over again this week. Keep in mind that next weekend I am spending the whole weekend with her because we are both driving to another city to meet some of our family members. I feel this guilt, like I am not a good daughter, that maybe I should see her more often, but between work, and taking care of our house and my own time with my husband I just can;t see her every day. I think once or twice a week is enough.
Sorry for how much I wrote, but I was trying to paint the picture here so you all would understand. Please, tell me how often do you visit your families? including your in laws? Am I not spending enough time with my family?