How to take care of myself thru the silent treatment

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Registered: 12-11-2011
How to take care of myself thru the silent treatment
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Fri, 12-30-2011 - 3:21pm

Thank you! Feeling much better. Happy New Year everyone. : )

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-29-2002

You could always write out what you are feeling, as a letter to those you are in conflict with.

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Registered: 09-16-2002

Something else I would recommend to get you through this is to concentrate on those healthy relationships you have in your life, and perhaps create some new ones!

Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.

.  -Albert Einstein

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Registered: 12-11-2011
Yes. years ago. She was a huge help too! May have to start up again. I totally agree with you on all points. I like the way you think. : )

Thank you so very much. Happy New Year!
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Registered: 02-14-2004

Have you seen a counselor?

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Registered: 02-23-2010
Exactly!!! We can control what we say but can't control others reactions BUT can control how we react. How simply you responded protecting your child and calling to RSVP declining. They're going to react whatever suits them and we must keep it all in perspective.

San
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Registered: 12-11-2011

Edited because ppl were reading and not responding and I want to keep the details vague for privacy reasons.

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Registered: 02-23-2010
Have you tried counseling?? I'm the same way and I'm in the middle of a similar situation that either I walk away or make nice. I'm tired of making nice. The only positive part for me is I can truly take a hard look at my behavior to make sure that whatever they're claiming about me is true and if I can change it. I'm not perfect and since my family is so broken I misbehave at times. I see a counselor every 2 weeks who has helped me with dealing with health issues and dysfunctional family.

We should never discount other's complaint but if you have reviewed the situation and determined that they're being impossible then you must let it go. I don't have a husband but I have a best friend who I run things by (he knows my family very well) and I have to let go of what they say and not fall into their negative trap. That's what it is...a trap. They want everyone as miserable as they are.

Let it go....listen to your husband SCREW EM' ALL!!

San