Husband--Me--Brother

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Registered: 11-10-2010
Husband--Me--Brother
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Wed, 11-10-2010 - 5:52pm

I have been married two years and I am loving it. My family and my in laws live in another continent. My only other relative here in the country is my younger brother. This December he will be visiting us for the first time since our wedding. He lives on the east coast and I live in CA and so we were not able to make frequent visits until now.

My husband and I live a pretty solitary life. We have few friends and no relatives around and we kind of like it that way and cherish each other's company more than anything. But I am very close to my brother. We talk everyday and have always had a great brother-sister relationship. My brother and husband on the other hand, have not had any interaction, except for the few days leading up to the wedding and a few days after that. Geographical distance was always the cause.

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Registered: 11-24-2004
Wed, 11-10-2010 - 8:22pm
I wouldn't worry about anyone feeling uncomfortable just yet. I have a feeling once your DH meets your brother, he'll see why you're close. If your brother is personable, that should help your DH lighten up a little.

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Wed, 11-10-2010 - 8:30pm
How long is your bro staying? If it's just a few days, it could go without a hitch. Maybe you should assure your husband that no one has to take a back seat. Only children aren't used to sharing and it's tough to share another person.
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Registered: 11-10-2010
Wed, 11-10-2010 - 10:10pm
My brother will be here for 3 weeks. I have assured him that although I am close to my brother, it doesn't change anything between us. I am just glad to have some family here for Christmas and New Years and I hope he sees it that way too.
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Registered: 11-10-2010
Wed, 11-10-2010 - 10:11pm
Yeah i hope so too. My brother gets along well with everyone, so I am hoping it will help break the ice in the beginning itself.
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Thu, 11-11-2010 - 12:25am

You know, they could get along so well, that you end up as the third wheel.

Big Hugs to you.

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Thu, 11-11-2010 - 2:00pm
I hope your DH will be glad to have company for the holidays. If your DH is one of those "super sensitive" types, you will want to be mindful of situations where he might feel left out. If you're having a conversation about people he doesn't know, it helps to fill him in on who the people are.

I have a feeling your DH is having visions of the two of you bonding, while he's left out in the cold. If the visit is fun for him too, he'll grow close to your brother too.

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