I have married into an Insane Asylum

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Registered: 06-12-2003
I have married into an Insane Asylum
Mon, 10-06-2003 - 12:11pm
Before I married my DH, I was well liked and respected, had many friends, and my previous inlaws and I got along better than my ex and I did.

Since DH and I met 6 years ago, everything has hit rock bottom. People we thought were friends showed true colors, and have spread awful rumors around our very small town.

I have also married into a family of lunatics...I have a stepson who is terrible..sets fires, fails in school and has lied to the degree that he almost had me arrest for abuse!

My inlaws are even worse. They live very close and are hard to avoid. My son (with DH) and I are second class citizens to them. My MIL lies about everything (she was in on the lies with stepson to have me arrested). My son is almost 4 yrs old, and has never spent a night with Gramma & Grandpa. They wouldn't have him, and if they did, I wouldn't trust them. It was bad enough before, but now Brother in Law has come home AGAIN to live with mom & dad (he is in his 30's and they still support him) and has stirred arguments up - and threatened DH (his brother) saying he wanted to come to our house with a gun or knife!

Dh (I think he must have been adopted) understands how upset and distraught I am, but insists they are harmless and they are his family so he doesn't want to get anyone in trouble.

I have racked my brain trying to figure out what I have done to all these people in the last 6 years, but cannot. I know many "skeletons in the closets" of these people, and have been tempted to try and cause them the upheaval they have cause us, but cannot bring my self to do it, yet.

I want to move, but don't want to leave my family (they live in a town nearby). My inlaws live approx an 1/8 of a mile from my house.

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Registered: 06-17-2003
Wed, 10-08-2003 - 3:41pm
I honestly do not know what to tell you besides move a little bit further away from them. If your MIL is trying to get authorities to prosecute you for soemthing you didn't do, start by documenting her lies, then go to a lawyer to see what he/she can do about it. Maybe you can put a restraining order on her. If possible move a little bit further away, just out of town, this might ease some tension in your household. This woman sounds like a risk to your well-being, and the well-being of your family. This is a serious issue, please talk to a lawyer.