I know u shouldnt really say this..but

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Registered: 05-02-2003
I know u shouldnt really say this..but
Fri, 05-09-2003 - 3:22pm
I know u really shouldnt say your family sucks, but that is how i am feeling right now. I am just like sooo pissed!!!! Ok this is what happend or I should say hasnt happened, I am graduating in 2 weeks from a community college and transfering to a 4yr. in the fall. THese past 2 years I have worked my ass off, to graduate with honors. And this last year has been really stressful for me cuz my hubbie is in the navy and has been over seas for the whole 2nd semester :( But anyways, My gradution is comming up, and i am excited about it, But my family (dad, step-mother,brothers,) Hasnt said anything about any plans for me, as far as a graduation party,Or a going away party(I am moving out of state week after graduation to be with my hubbie). And i think that is really F-up , I dont expect some big fancy affair, but at least a backyard bar-b -q. And its like nobody in my house even cares, It just really makes me feel like unappreciated, seeing as how In my house i have to cook dinner every night and still clean. (stepmother cant cook worth crap) , And i know they arent trying to have a suprise party for me, because my family dosnt do things like that. It just sucks that they dont seem to care about my accomplishments.

Ok I just had to vent
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 05-09-2003 - 4:14pm
Congratulations on your accomplishments! Maybe your family is throwing you a surprise party?? :) Treat yourself to something nice nonetheless. You deserve it! Best wishes in your future!! :)
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Registered: 08-14-2002
Fri, 05-09-2003 - 9:44pm
So throw your own party - to heck with the rest of the family!

For his 45th birthday recently, my fiance planned his own party - even ordered and picked up his own birthday cake. Not that I wouldn't have done these things for him, of course, but he just didn't feel it was necessary. At least this way he gets the kind of party he wants, picks his own BBQ meal, and exactly the kind of cake he wants. He even called up the family and invited them over for his own party. All he would let me do was to buy the ice cream. Strange, but it made him happy - so why not?

If you plan your own party, at least you know you will HAVE one and you will most likely have a wonderful time. And your family should get the hint - shame on them.

Best of luck to you - and congratulations on your graduation!!!



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Registered: 03-25-2003
Fri, 05-09-2003 - 10:30pm
I completely agree with everyone's opinion here.

In a week, if you still don't know what's gonna happen, MENTION to your family (dad or brothers, never mind about stepmom) that in a week you'll be graduating. It would be nice if YOU CAN have a little party at your house (orrrr have a cozy BBQ or something). Just give some hints . . . . and see if that hit a nerve. If nothing happens, then go for it. Have a little party by yourself with a couple of your buddies from school without your family. It's their loss! Maybe, they're still in shock that you're moving away from them, and they don't feel like celebrating, they must be in mourning. But, talk to your brothers, if you're closer to him than your dad.

Congratulations on your accomplishments. Good luck to you! And SMILE as you graduate.


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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 05-10-2003 - 7:57am
I totally agree with the others. If they won't have one for you have one for yourself. My DH is also in the military and I know how hard it is to celebrate things when they are away, but try to enjoy your day!!! You worked so hard for this and you have made it, to heck with whether they give you a party or not enjoy your day!! Maybe you get together with some friends from your college and all go out together. I have learned that the things that are never planned seem to be some of the best times of my life. Let us know how things go and what you end up doing. Congratulations!!!!!! Michelle
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Registered: 08-16-2001
Sat, 05-10-2003 - 8:28pm
Why not have a party for yourself? Obviously, they aren't interested, so have a party and if they come, they come, if not, oh well. Invite friends, classmates, etc.

When I graduated the local community college, I planned my own graduation dinner and who I wanted to invite, etc. I wound up having it at a nice restaurant in the area and everyone was very impressed with the restaurant. Everyone who I invited showed up and they were excited for me, or at least SEEMED excited for me.

I know what it is like to break your butt and graduate school. That is what I did last year. I graduated Phi Theta Kappa with a 4.0 GPA, so I appreciate the time and effort it takes to get through college AND get EXCELLENT grades.

Plan your own party. If that doesn't work, treat yourself to a pedicure/manicure the day of or day before you graduate and treat yourself to something you wouldn't normally buy yourself , as a reward for your significant accomplishment.

If your family doesn't want to be excited for you, that is THEIR problem. Don't let it get you down! IT is THEIR issue and this is YOUR special time. Don't let them ruin it for you.

CL for 11 years