I need advice!!!!

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Registered: 07-01-2010
I need advice!!!!
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Tue, 07-06-2010 - 5:34pm
My dilemma...I'm happily married and close to my other family.
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In reply to: mpe0705
Sat, 07-10-2010 - 4:19pm

Is there some way you can be supportive without being phsycially there too much?

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In reply to: mpe0705
Sun, 07-11-2010 - 12:26pm

I think this is just something you have to accept.

I know that you want to be able to connect with your parent, but sometimes it just doesn't happen. It bites the hiney, but unfortunately it is as it is. Most especially if the distance is reinforced with a conflict of perspectives.

Hugs,

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In reply to: mpe0705
Mon, 07-12-2010 - 10:39am

I wouldn't tell them how much time you spend with the inlaws. I would refrain from telling too many stories about them or mention them if they go on vacation with you and DH. I know a lot of people who "have to" do this, because their own family lays on the guilt if they spend one more holiday with the inlaws then with them.

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Mon, 07-12-2010 - 12:40pm
Thanks to all for your replies!
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Tue, 07-13-2010 - 9:29am
If your family is feeling that their guilt trips are "working" and soon they'll be able to wear you down, they'll keep trying. I know someone who tells her family, "we are not having this conversation" and "end of story" when pressed. Such stonewall responses can be effective. If your first response is to simply answer their questions, prepare yourself before you have such

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