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|Tue, 04-29-2003 - 12:19am|
Here is the situation. I have 3 adult children, the oldest two are married and have their own families, we are a very close knit family that has the usual ups and downs but nothing major. The problem is our youngest son. He is 22, has a great job, really a good guy. About a year ago he met a young lady, married but seperated for 4 years, with two children, she is almost 7 years older than my son. Not the ideal situation but I honestly thought he was sort of "spreading his wings" and this relationship would end. No such luck, he has moved in with her, and is now the only bread winner.
If that is not bad enough, she has two monster children. They are 7 and 5. The kids cuss, hit adults and generally just do as they please. The bio grandparents will have nothing to do with them due to their behavior.
Here is what I really need help with. My two older children are now refusing to come over for family dinners, functions, holidays or anything else as long as these 2 little "angels" are present. I know how bad it is when they are here, I live thru it also. I have been hit by these kids, spit on, slapped at and kicked. I have also had food thrown at me and my house almost totally destroyed by them, the oldest ( a girl)took a pair of scissors to my daughters wedding gown in a closet and cut it up! I caught her in the act. The kids have also done damage at my older kids homes.
I have spoken to my son, and he says that the Mom refuses to make them behave and that she will not do anything. I have told my son that he is welcome to family functions but not to bring the kids, but about an hour or so after he gets here, his girlfriend will show up, if she does not show she calls constantly with one emergency after another. Does anyone have any advice, ideas???? This is tearing up our family.