I think I have totally had it!!
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|Wed, 04-30-2003 - 9:30pm|
My husband is one of 6 children. He is 3rd in line with 2 older sisters. Only 2, my husband and his younger brother do not live within a 10 minute drive. We live 6 hours away, his brother 6 hours away the other direction.
Here is the situation. Dad can no longer really take care of himself. He has been thru chemo now for over 5 months. I have since last October spent over 13 weeks taking care of him. I drive the 600 miles, stay for about 3 weeks,drive home and then do it again a week later. My Dh rarely goes but he does when his job permits it.
Here is what I am so angry about, My fil has never cared for me. He has never bothered to hide it from me, but he tells my Dh how great I am, then snickers as he walks away. Since his illness, he has become very nasty to me. He say anything he wants, and basically dares me to tell my DH. His favorite line is.Well, I am not saying she's lying BUT....and so it goes.
Now, my SIl wants me to come back and help again, I am so tired from all the traveling, tired of his nasty little digs, and too be blunt I have a life of my own and I am getting resentful. Only 2 of us (sil and me) take care of him. All his other kids call but never come around. One is a nurse and lives 5 minutes from Dad and she has been over once since October!!!
I feel so guilty....the man has cancer, but I have my family, kids, grandkids and a home to take care of. I am also getting angry with DH for allowing this to continue. I have tried to hire someone to come in daily to cook for him , clean and so on, but he does not want a stranger in his home.
Thanks for letting me vent. I am almost positive I will be on the road again soon.