I think I offended him...

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Registered: 01-24-2009
I think I offended him...
Tue, 09-27-2011 - 6:11pm

Hi everyone,

Sorry if this is a bit lengthy but some insight would be great and I just want to rant.

I have a former professor from a local community college who I met as a teenager. I am no longer a student and am now married.

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Registered: 05-14-1999
Tue, 09-27-2011 - 6:26pm
If it were me, I'd leave the past in the past. Yes, he should have followed through with you, and should not have been rude when you asked questions but, that's his issue, you did nothing wrong. Were I to ever see this person in a social setting again, I would just be polite, say hello, and move on.
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Registered: 04-19-2004
Tue, 09-27-2011 - 7:08pm

I would stop worrying about it.

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Registered: 06-16-1998
Wed, 09-28-2011 - 3:18pm

From your description it doesn't seem that this professor acted as your mentor or gave you a lot of help or that you and he were particularly close, so there is no obligation for you to spend a lot of time with him at social gatherings or even to greet him immediately. When you brought up the fact that he had missed your appt all of those years ago you did it in such a

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Registered: 01-24-2009
Thu, 09-29-2011 - 11:34pm
Thanks everyone for the advice. I'll just continue to be polite but not let his actions bother me. Also, I asked my husband to not volunteer information about me even if asked. Not that it matters, but my former professor is actually only nine years older then me so maybe this might explain some of his actions. I just wanted to vent because he can be irritating, but I'm moving on from this now. Thanks.
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Registered: 02-14-2004
Sat, 10-01-2011 - 2:14pm

My husband is a college professor.