I think my friend spiked my drink

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Registered: 04-10-2013
I think my friend spiked my drink
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Wed, 04-10-2013 - 8:24pm

I'll try and keep it short and am very grateful for any help. I was friends with this guy for a couple of years, saw him every few months as I did not live where he did. He started getting more and more clingy and weird- very jealous about other people I spent time with. I made it very clear to him that I didn't want a relationship and he said he understood that. There are a number of things he did which made me feel very uneasy so I started seeing/interacting with him less. The last time I saw him I had a couple of drinks- he bought the last one. Within about ten minutes I started to feel dizzy- I said I needed to go (which I did as I had to catch a train)...he made lots of references for me to stay with him, that he wouldn't "try anything" but I insisted that I had to go. As I walked to the station I started to feel more and more weird, couldn't hold my head up, legs felt like concrete and it was a real battle just to walk to the train. Once in my seat I couldn't keep my head up and it dropped, hitting the table in front of me and I blacked out. There was a loud noise some time later and I woke up and was instantly sick. I tried to walk to the toilet but kept swaying from side to side. When I eventually got to the toilet door I tried several times to grab the handle and kept missing. In the end I fell to the floor and fell asleep again (but it felt like blacking out not drifting off)...someone woke me some time later as I was on the floor..they asked if I was ok and I couldn't speak, couldn't get my words out and just put my head back down. I was sick a few times while all this went on. When the train got me home about 3.5 hours later I felt relatively normal as I got into my lift's car. I still felt weird but not at all dizzy or feeling particularly sick. When I got home I realised that I had wet myself. I have never ever reacted like this in my life...and I'm in my late 20s, I'm familiar with my limits and in this case I did not have enough to drink to feel drunk let alone like this. I didn't know what to do for a while as I didn't know what to think. Do you think my drink was spiked and if so, with what? I couldn't prove that I had been spiked or that this guy even did it but I found him quite creepy and uncomfortable to be around- I changed number immediately just to avoid a conversation with him- if I accused him and he didn't do it, then what? Even if he did, I was sure he wouldn't admit it...so I just avoided speaking to him. I thought this had worked as I didn't hear from him in any way for 4 months...but just now he has found a way to contact me online and has sent me a message now saying he has tried to to text and phone me but the number won't work and how am I? I don't know what to do as when I was in touch with him before, he was very creepy, finding things out about me and my friends/family and subtly letting me know that he knew things...even saying once that he knew where my mother lived and might visit sometime?! Really odd as I was not that close with him...I feel very uneasy and don't know how to respond. I feel like he might go to greater lengths to get in touch with me and find it weird that he has waited this long to say he can't get through- he was very obsessive before and angry if I didn't reply right away. Any advise would be much appreciated- I felt so relived when I changed my number as he had been creeping me out for so long that I didn't know how I'd ever get rid of him, I thought I had.

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Registered: 03-05-2013
Thu, 04-11-2013 - 9:01am

I'd be very careful if I ever run into this man again. If he drugged you then he may be dangerous. I am wondering if you should go fill out a police report or something.

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Registered: 04-29-2010
Thu, 04-11-2013 - 1:00am

Sounds to me like you got "roofied".  And if that is the case, then I would consider this man dangerous.  That is basically administering a dangerous drug to someone that you have no idea how they would respond to it.  Not to mention what he had planned for you.  That is just plain scary.  And even if he didn't drug you, and for some reason you just reacted to the alcohol differently than you ever have, it still sounds like the guy is a creeper and should be avoided at all costs.  Don't ever get together with him again.  Don't respond to him online.  Just act like he doesn't exist anymore. 

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