I'm Accused Of Ruining A Family Tradition

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Registered: 06-12-2011
I'm Accused Of Ruining A Family Tradition
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Mon, 07-04-2011 - 1:54pm

For the past 10 years since my sister purchased her beach home the family has gone there for the 4th of July for a cookout and to watch fireworks on the beach. In the past week it came to my attention that my sister's grand kids have been tormenting my child for years and recently its gotten to a very hurtful level. Last week

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Registered: 11-13-2009
I wouldn't put my kid through that, either.

Who exactly is accusing you of ruining the 4th?

 

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Registered: 06-16-1998

I guess you say "enough" when you reach your limit, and you're there. I completely agree with you on refusing to subject your son to the cruel behavior of his cousins. Expecting children to somehow "work things out" is ridiculous without guidance from adults on what is right and wrong. It sounds like your niece just wants to continue to abdicate her parenting responsibility.

Look at it this way: if the tradition of getting together was so important, they could control the mean kids so you would attend. It sounds like you're also breaking another family tradition: verbally abusing your relatives. A good tradition to break.

Just wondering, what stance is your sister (grandmother of the meanies) taking? Does she find the behavior acceptable?

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Registered: 08-16-2001

I don't blame you for not going.

CL for 11 years
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Registered: 06-12-2011

My sister/ their

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Registered: 06-12-2011

My sister with the out of control grand kids and her daughter believe I have ruined the family tradition of

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Registered: 11-13-2009
Well, maybe the fact that none of you went, will give her something to think about.

 

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Registered: 07-29-2002

Well, I would be right there with you.

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Registered: 06-12-2011

The thing about her kids is that when they are with me they are very well mannered and behaved. Thank you, no thank you, may I please.

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Registered: 07-29-2002

Oh I fully understand it is the Mom that is the problem.

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Registered: 11-13-2009
I can't believe OP's niece isn't absolutely horrified at what they're doing to her aunt's son. You know they're the school yard bullies, too.

Some people......

 

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