isnt my friend with mental issues asking too much?

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Registered: 12-22-2009
isnt my friend with mental issues asking too much?
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Thu, 12-08-2011 - 10:29am

i ve talked about this woman before - we actually ended our friendship briefly in oct but then we met when i had to collect a letter from her that was delivered to her house for me, as i was using her address in between apts.

we talked and she got really upset saying she missed me etc so i felt bad and we became friends again but have tone dit way down, seeing eachother 1-2 times a week instead of 3-4.

well she's become really bad with mental issues lately and i feel like it's too much for me to handle. she's always sufffered with depression and has been in the hospital twice in the last week. i met with her last week and she told me that the nite before, she went to buy razors to kill herself, etc and couldnt get out of bed and said she wanted to call me but couldnt get herself to the phone. i told her she needs to speak to a PROFESSIONAL and she said that no, she just needs me to come over and rub her tummy and tell her itll be ok...

i dealt with depression when i was younger and i know that while company is good, you need a doctor. aside from that, she called her bf, her ex bf, etc anyone she knows and they basiclaly stay with her in shifts. i work really hard all week long and have

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Registered: 02-23-2010

WOW....this is a tough one.

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Registered: 05-14-1999

Is there any way you could be honest with her, explain that you have enough to deal with on your own time, that the weight of her problems is taking a toll on you, and you just can't be there for her in the capacity that she has come to know/expect, any longer(for fear that the stress may ruin your friendship completely)?

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Registered: 04-19-2004

I think she is asking too much because you feel she is.

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Registered: 06-12-2011

In answer to your question is your friend with "MENTAL ISSUES" asking too much. Yes of course she asking too much. She is asking you to be her therapist and you are not qualified for the job an sucking the life out of you