Issue w/Women friends

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Registered: 05-24-2003
Issue w/Women friends
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Thu, 07-03-2003 - 7:57pm
I have an issue with some women I've been friends with for several years. It may sound silly, but to me, its an issue, okay? These two women friends of mine tell me that "I look like Chelsea Clinton" (even though I'm in my 30s). I've had like, one other person, a total stranger, tell me this one time. I have NOTHING against Chelsea Clinton, but I just don't take it as a compliment when I'm told I look like her.

Not to mention the fact that none of these women who tell me this are raving beauties themselves. So, I wish they would quit insulting me. The next time someone tells me this, I am going to tell them "look in the mirror at yourself".

Would this even slightly bother anyone else? Or am I just too sensitive? I can't believe grown women who are adults feel the need to make catty comments.

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Thu, 07-03-2003 - 11:37pm
It's jealousy! You don't want to admit it, but you're probably PRETTIER than they are. Chelsea is turning out to be a beautiful spoiled brat. OK, she's gonna be making six digit as a consultant, only because her dad's (ex) president AND her mom's a senator. (I take that as a compliment if I were you). At least, you're not being told you look like Christina Aquilla, which is lower class in my category. Yes, I agree with you, too. When someone insult you by calling you names you don't like. There's one woman at work who constantly bully me with insulting remarks and names, each time she passes by my desk. She's a mail girl, and she said she went to college. I went to some college, but I'm making more money and doing a job SHE COULDN'T handle. She also dresses like she's the cleaning lady, and I dress with style and elegance. The last time she insulted me in front of my upstairs co-workers, I was fuming but I could only take so much. I emailed her and said: "(her name) please, if you're unhappy, don't bring us down with your smart alecky remarks!" She had the nerve to call me at home, yelling and said: "I'm shock you emailed me that! I didn't know you're sensitive". I interrupted and I said: "I'm a human being! How am I supposed to respond to you with an insulting remark. . ." (interrupts me and continue yelling). "I can't talk right now, I'm very busy! then hang up. We avoided each other (at least she doesn't pass my desk anymore, nor does she say anything when she passes by. I'm glad she's avoiding me. I'm happier I said my peice. Don't allow those two to continue bothering you, just tell THEM your feelings are hurt! ! ! !
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Registered: 05-24-2003
Fri, 07-04-2003 - 4:38pm
I've noticed that people who like to make insulting comments will always defend themselves by saying that someone is "too sensitive".

Personally, I never discuss with anyone who they "look like".

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 07-04-2003 - 6:23pm
Actually that might not be an insult, have you seen recent picture of her these days? She doesnt look like the ugly goose she once did i guess money does alot of good for beauty you can fix or most anything if you have the $$$....Lee Anne :o)
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Registered: 03-30-2003
Fri, 07-04-2003 - 9:44pm
Umm....are you sure this is meant as an insult?

Just because you think she is ugly, doesn't mean that your friends do. Unless they say "Gee, Chelsea is sooooo ugly, and you look like her", I can't believe that they mean this as anything other than a compliment. I find it very hard to think that friends of yours would insult you to your face.

When I was 16, in the 80's, I had people tell me I looked like Molly Ringwald. Now, I thought she was UGLY. But the people who were telling me this were not insulting me, they were complimenting me. They thought she was pretty and famous and that I would love to be told that I looked like her. To this day I don't think she is pretty, but I do have to admit that I do kinda look like her.

This is what I would do:

Next time they tell you this, I would say (in a nice voice), "Listen, I know that you think you are complimenting me, but I really don't think that she is all that pretty so I would appreciate if you would not tell me this again."

I guarantee that they will be shocked.

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Sat, 07-05-2003 - 1:01am
I remember someone mentioned to me once, that my very handsome husband looks like Michael Douglas. My husband still very handsome, and still looks like he hasn't aged, but Michael does. At that time, I thought it was a good compliment, that he was being refered to as someone who is a famous Movie Star. I can see why you'd be offended about Chelsea. When she was younger and wore braces, she did looks like an ugly duckling (no offense), but like the poster above, all it took was $$$.
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Registered: 05-24-2003
Sat, 07-05-2003 - 11:05am
Good idea, I guess.

I think Chelsea is attractive these days, but I remember when she was like, 12 or 13, and they were making rude jokes about her on Saturday Night Live. Which at the time, I thought was horribly cruel. You see, this is the "memory" I have, when people compare me to her, and I guess it brings up bad memories from junior high school when immature pre-teens were making fun of each other.

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Registered: 06-02-2003
Sat, 07-05-2003 - 9:58pm
HEY!!!!!!! I think Chelsea Clinton is PRETTY!

People used to tell me I looked like her once in a while and I was flattered though I really don't see the resemblance, and I am younger than her (I think it's just cuz I have wavy red hair and she has wavy brownish red hair)

I don't think you should pay too much attn to them! :-) I doubt they mean it as an insult. If they were saying you looked like Mimi on the Drew Carey show it would be different!

Rhiannon