issues with DIL
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|Thu, 12-06-2012 - 11:06am|
I tried to get on the board with the 50ish and beyond moms, but I could not start a conversation over there, my computer kept saying "page not found." So, anyway, I'm here now, and hoping for a listening ear.
A little history. My oldest son got married in August. They are expecting a baby in March. Yes, do the math, she was pregnant when they got married. It isn't a problem for us, but it has caused a great deal of stress for them. You see DIL is a very emotional, high strung person anyway, and had to be taken off of her antidepressant when she became pregnant. She is on something else now that is safer for the baby, but apparently it isn't completely doing the job. She is always worrying about everything, and I know some of this is normal when you're pregnant with the hormones and everything, but she's going overboard with this. They live in an older home (which many newly married couples do, because they're not loaded) and there are issues. They had bats but my husband has helped my son eradicate this. The other things she's worrying about are just over the top. She thinks if she runs the stove and the dryer at the same time that the house is going to burn down. (There were issues with the electrical that have been fixed) My son put in a fence for his dogs and the gas company discovered there was a gas line UNDERNEATH their detached garage, when he had the lines located. Well, the gas co. diddled around and by the time they got it scheduled to put the line in the ground was froze. It's been like this for 30 years and she's freaking out because she thinks the garage is going to blow up. UGHHH! She's also inventing other things that will never happen and to make it worse her mother puts ideas into her head. The other day they were driving and she was yelling at my son saying he doesn't care about the baby because he won't fix X, Y, and Z. How can she say that to him?! I don't care what her issues are, he doesn't deserve this! I told my son she seriously needs to get some counseling and I wish we could talk to her mom and dad because they are not helping the situation. You see, we own the home, and so they won't do anything when it comes to any repairs or anything because they think it is our responsibility. We bought this house for them and they pay us rent. My son lost his last job and had to put his last house on "short sale" so doesn't have good credit at the moment. Can't they see what we're doing for them? Why can't they help a little here? At least they could try to reassure their daughter instead of putting ideas in her head and complaining! Guess what? My son isn't rich!! If they wanted her to marry a millionaire then they shouldn't have let her marry him!!! And good luck with that! No one else will put up with her! I am just very upset with how she's treating my son. I am wondering if they should have even gotten married, we knew something like this was going to happen!
So, I am getting my Christmas cards ready to mail, which of course, have pictures from the wedding on them. I am very thankful for this baby, but DIL is making it not such a joyful experience with all the crap she's pulling. I'm giving her a shower and I can't even get a list of names and addresses from her. The shower is about six weeks away, but I feel the invites should be sent about a month before.
Anyhow, I feel a little bit better that I have vented to you here. I have no one to talk to about this because it isn't anyone's business and because it is embarassing. I have a best friend that I would talk to about things like this, but I'm even embarassed to talk to her. DIL has a good heart and she loves kids so she'll be a good mom, but she has to deal with her issues. None of this is good for the baby or their relationship.
Thank you for reading, sorry it got so long!