It worked! Family peace, for once
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|Mon, 06-30-2003 - 11:38pm|
To refresh memories, my fiance's family are loud, obnoxious and argumentative people. Love each other dearly, very close family, but always fighting about something. Take any holiday or special occasion, plan a family get-together, throw a little beer in the cooler, and you've got a recipe for disaster.
So Sunday, we planned a little barbeque to celebrate my future step-son's departure for one year to Taiwan. Invited all the family. As plans progressed, I got tips that this one or that one was bringing a cooler of beer. Also, certain ones (who are usually the instigators of arguments) had given me clues that a fight was already brewing, and the barbeque hadn't even started yet! I panicked - wanted this day to be special for my step-son, a peaceful one with good feelings to send him off on this scary adventure - and it was starting to look pretty bad.
So, when the first ones arrived, including the major instigator (already a bit tipsy), I took her aside and told her how nervous I was about a fight maybe starting between OTHER family members, and wanting this to be special for B. I asked her to help me watch for signs of an argument and help me diffuse it. She happily agreed (!) Then when instigator #2 arrived, I took him in the kitchen and told him the same thing. He also agreed. (!)
Well, of course the inevitable happened. Instigator #3, whom I had not had the chance to enlist her help, started the fight. Instigator #2 jumped right into it - but I caught his attention and he remembered, then backed off of the argument. Meanwhile, Instigator #1 did the same thing with #3 that I had done - and everyone calmed down, changed the subject, and we had an absolutely PERFECT barbeque!!! Woohoo!!!
To top it off, my step-son called everyone into the front yard to look at the southern sky - which, just after a short rainstorm, had a beautiful double rainbow. Whan an omen of good luck.
Incredible day. Feeling pretty darn good tonight and patting my own back.