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|Wed, 04-30-2003 - 8:30pm|
I have known my husband for almost 4 years been married for almost 2 1/2.Ever since I have known my in-laws I have disliked them. (Except my Father-in-law and ONE of the FOUR sister-in-laws) My biggest problem is about baby sitting. My husband has a daughter (Age 6) from a previous girlfriend, and his mother was all for us taking her more often. But-----we both worked long hours and differnt shifts. So we needed a baby sitter for about 2 hours a day three days a week. His mother said she had NO PROBLEM doing it. We offered to pay her but she said no. She didn't watch her more than a month before her phantom backache started and she couldn't do it anymore. Which would have never bothered me, except she watches everyone elses kids (EIGHT OTHER GRANDKIDS!!) all the time. Well, that was about 2 1/2 years ago. And she has not babysat his daughter since. She's always too busy or achy or whatever. Now my husbad and I have a 1 year old son together. His mother has watched him for us THREE WHOLE TIMES EVER in the entire year he's been alive. And only for a few hours reluctantly. She knew that I needed to get a job to help keep caught up on our bills and we had no money for a babysitter, and did she offer?NOOOOO!But she does continue to watch everyone elses kids. Mind you, this woman does not work, and has not had to for many years. Now here's where it gets even better ---- My husbands brother and wife offered (WITHOUT BEING ASKED) to babysit our son for free. And I think great, so I go out and get a part-time job. My husband work midnights, three days on three days off. So they wouldn't need to watch for more than a few hours a day maybe twice a week. Well, that arrangment lasted just fine until the day we actually needed them to do it!! They would do it but give us all kinds of hassle about when and how long they were available, even though they were given a weeks advanced notice on when they were needed. Then they decide that his brother is going on vacation in July so she can't watch our son for a TEN DAY STRETCH!! With no exceptions! So this whole mess lasted a month and we decided it wasn't worth the irritation. So I gave a weeks notice at work. I'm so angry at his family for this. We really need the money . And what makes it worse is they offered to help, even offered to do it for free without us ever even asking them to. And now I have to quit my job after a mere month. Any advice on how to not hate his family so much?