Losing my friend to a drug addiction....

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Registered: 10-09-2006
Losing my friend to a drug addiction....
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Thu, 03-10-2011 - 3:37pm

I'm very upset because I'm beginning to face the reality that I'm losing my best friend to drugs.

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Registered: 03-06-2011
Thu, 03-10-2011 - 4:58pm

What does her husband say about all this? Does he think it's perfectly okay to leave her at home with the kid all day? She takes an insane amount of pills and drinks like a fish. She forgets conversations. How can she even take care of the kid? Did you ever talk to her husband about her problem? Does he even know what a typical day is like with her? That would be the first step. If he doesn't listen, call CPS. The kid is in danger being home all day with a druggie like that.

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Registered: 06-06-2001
Thu, 03-10-2011 - 5:08pm

"She never wants to have playdates, sometimes she doesn't answer the phone for days, she does things that make me worry about the of her child but I don't think I can call authorities on her as her friend.

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Registered: 08-25-2006
Thu, 03-10-2011 - 6:03pm

Hi Victoria, I have never been on this particular

Serenity
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Registered: 10-09-2006
Thu, 03-10-2011 - 10:18pm
Maybe it came across as I'm more worried about losing her a friend but I worry about her son more than I worry about losing a friend. It is honestly something that I think about on a daily basis and battle with mentally. You cannot say that I'm more concerned with myself just from reading this one post, that's an unfair assumption. I worry all the time that if something was to happen to him I'd blame myself for not doing something. But realize that calling the authorities on someone for neglecting their child is a HUGE thing. I talk to my husband all the time about it and what we think I should do. I have made it clear to her that if she needs me to babysit I'm always here to help and she has taken me up on it a few times. The problem is that if I call the authorities there is no proof of abuse because you cannot see physical signs of neglect on a child. I know that they would listen to my concerns but I also know she could cover for herself very well and make it appear as though she has it all together.
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Registered: 10-09-2006
Thu, 03-10-2011 - 10:23pm

Well her husband is aware that she takes pills, they both see the same "dirty" doctor.

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Registered: 08-25-2006
Fri, 03-11-2011 - 11:48am
That is the thing with calling CPS, you have no way of knowing what will, or will not happen.

I had to call one time on a neighbor years ago when the left their young daughter by herself just playing outside in our neighborhood. I was so nervous that they would know it was me and would retaliate. CPS told me I did the right thing (I waited to call until after I let her eat dinner with us, poor thing). I have no idea if anything happened and never heard anything again. We moved shortly afterwards.

Just know that if you do call, remember that results are out of your hands. If they start a file on her, it is not your doing, it was her doing.

You can be her friend, but remember to put your well being first.

Hang in there...
Serenity
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Registered: 03-30-2007
Fri, 03-11-2011 - 12:11pm

I don't know if this will help, but I know of people that have contacted the police because they knew a person was "high" and driving.

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Registered: 10-14-2003
Fri, 03-11-2011 - 12:15pm

I agree with you Victoria.

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Registered: 02-14-2004
Fri, 03-11-2011 - 1:27pm

PLEASE call CPS about that poor child.

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Registered: 03-06-2011
Fri, 03-11-2011 - 7:37pm

Let CPS do their job. They know what to look for. If he's spending days by himself, he could have diaper rash, be malnourished, from missing meals. Don't worry about it, just do the right thing.