At a loss w/ family.. what to do
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|Fri, 11-23-2012 - 7:55pm|
I am at a loss. I married my husband in 2009 and shortly after that we moved to Maryland due to his military orders. Since, then, it feels like my own family (mother, father, brother, etc) has forgotten me. They don't call me except for on my birthday or if they need something. Last year, really disturbed me on Thanksgiving when they werent going to call me. My husband has had to work the last 2 Christmas's and Thanksgivings.. so i have been on my own. It would have been nice for them to pick up the phone and call their only daughter who lives 2500 miles away. This year, it happened again.. they were not planning on it. So, I was the bigger person to call them. All I got was Oh thank you for calling. I don't know what to say or do. I want to say something but am afraid of what they have to say.. My mother will cry, etc and write a nice little letter most likely saying i am a horrible person, and well my dad.. he will just ignore it. I went down this road about 10 years ago with my ex-husband and my family (long story) and I am guessing they are only holding it over my head. And, it was a different situation and it is in the past. My husband says to either say something or just let it go. Why is it that familes have to be this way towards each other? I can't help that I loved my husband and married him and he was in the military and got orders! And, with it being the holidays and living away, it makes it really difficult. They have no idea how many times I have cried over it. All I know is if I were to tell them how I feel, it would somehow backfire on me and I would get the guilt trips. My mother always complains about how her family (cousins) never call her, yet she never picks up the phone. Over the last few months, I have slowly stopped calling once or twice a week like I used to and have started calling every few weeks. I guess at what point do you just throw in the towel? I'd really love some input, especially from those who do have a spouse in the military!