Major Introductory Vent! (Long)
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|Sun, 07-27-2003 - 9:42pm|
I'm new to this board, and relieved to finally find someplace I can go to to lower my blood pressure!
An outline of my situation:
Husband, 2 teen daughters and I live with my Great-Aunt, who is 82. We moved in with her some 8 years ago after she was widowed, and we were at a point where we felt the move would benefit us as well.
My aunt is very deaf, has hearing aids, but half the time doesn't use them. The resulting dynamics of this affect the entire household, and are mostly a cause of frustration and friction all around.
One moment my aunt treats me like I'm the lady of the manor (and she's the scullery maid), and the next she makes me feel like an 8 year old child. I can sympathize a little better nowadays because I have a sense of how difficult it is to let your kids go... (she helped raise me until I was 12, and then continued intermittently; I am the closest thing she's ever had to a daughter), but STILL! Another issue is her memory is showing a significant decline; until recently it was only her short-term memory... now she's starting to forget stuff that she's known for years... this is scary. She's also OBSESSED with illness. (She is extremely healthy for her age.)
My kids and I have been unusually close to each other up til about a year ago. Older daughter, 18 1/2 going on 28, wants to move out and move in with boyfriend (this is also scary). Younger daughter, 17, is much calmer, but, joy of joys, she is enthralled with the Jehovah's Witnesses. The thought of my level-headed one thinking about going knocking on doors makes me crazy. I can only hope it's a phase she'll work through in time.
My husband is great about living with my aunt; he's a balancing force when I start to get crazy. He's looking forward to the looming empty nest though, whereas I spend a lot of time these days in tears whenever I think about it. Probably a lot of that is menopause starting.
I spilled a lot of it to my doctor, who recommended exercise (I'm overweight with heel spurs, which precludes many exercises), and prescribed a trial run of Zoloft. I liked the way Zoloft made me feel during the day, but it made me wakeful at night, so I never asked for a renewal. Maybe I'll ask for something different when I see him next.
Arrrrgh! I'm tired, I'm stressed, have had a nervous eye tic return from an earlier stressful time, and I'm getting big as a house! Fortunately, I work for a public school, so I have this summer to try to pull myself together... I have to do something, cause things are definitely worse than they used to be.
I need sympathy maybe, but I need suggestions more. The only flesh & blood support groups around here are for families struggling with true Alzheimer's issues, and we're not that bad, yet. When I read about what those people are going through, I feel guilty for complaining about the comparatively minor things I go through with my aunt.
Thanks for any help you can offer~