May I just say.....

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Registered: 02-14-2004
May I just say.....
Thu, 03-10-2011 - 7:12pm

No matter how much one loves their grown child and no matter how badly one feels because said grown child has a handicap, SOMETIMES you just get TIRED of being the "helper".

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Registered: 03-06-2011
Thu, 03-10-2011 - 9:09pm

That's cool. Every now and then, we all want to scream. I did my share already. LOL! What's up with these smileys? They are kinda lame, so I don't use them.

You're a good mom and grandmother for helping them out. I hope they appreciate it.

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Registered: 11-13-2009
Thu, 03-10-2011 - 9:35pm
Scream away. I know I would be. I hope this isn't a permanent thing and your dd will make a complete recovery.


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Registered: 12-16-2008
Thu, 03-10-2011 - 10:37pm

You are entitled to vent.

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Registered: 06-16-1998
Thu, 03-10-2011 - 10:40pm

Scream away!

I have to ask: does your dd have a Plan B, in case she is not able to resume driving and/or if for some reason you become unable or unwilling to continue the taxi service? Like the 16yo getting a license and taking over, or her dh quitting the second job or anything?

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Registered: 07-29-2002
Thu, 03-10-2011 - 11:44pm

I get what you are saying.

Vent away!

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Registered: 08-10-2010
Fri, 03-11-2011 - 10:26am

Maybe there is some way your dd can get some help from someone else and you could be a backup.

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Registered: 06-06-2001
Fri, 03-11-2011 - 3:15pm
I agree with other posters that, while it's perfectly acceptable to vent, I also think that you are free to have some time to yourself, too. I think it's totally reasonable to have a day that's all your own. I believe this has already been mentioned, but it's what comes to my mind: carpooling. Are there any other families that have similar activities and would be able to help with transportation for your grandchildren?
I would get them involved in problem solving of the transportation, too. Maybe let them know that one day trip per week is for shopping, and if they can't get what they need on that trip that they'll have to wait till the following week. That way they can plan an prioritize and not having you go out multiple times to the same or similar locations.


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Registered: 04-19-2004
Wed, 03-16-2011 - 7:49pm

For those times when you need help - try searching out a community ride. We do not have public transportation system here (ie city buses, trains,etc) however one of our nursing homes does offer a community ride for free to anyone who needs a ride w/in the city limits.

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Registered: 02-14-2004
Thu, 03-17-2011 - 1:06pm

I appreciate the thoughts and encouragement from everybody.