maybe i really am going insane...add....

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maybe i really am going insane...add....
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Wed, 09-03-2003 - 1:02am
to all you people who put your two cents in..i am ever greatful...and as soon as i finish this post, i plan on checking out those two books mentions...one id like to recommend for any one who is dealing with a parental situation is..."the art of dealing with rejection" by elaine savage..

ironically i ran across an excerpt from this book on the front page of the newspaper onm christmas day , several years ago..the topic was how parents go back to treating adult children..like LITTLE kids at holiday gatherings...

when i read the book ..the first thing that hit me was..im NOT the ONLY one!!

now on an up note...we had a "girls day" at my house sunday...both my daughters (ages 13 and 23) daughter in law (23) and granddaughter (4)..NO MEN ALLOWED!!..and we experimented with some ..ahem..."restaurant" recipes....

then we just sat around and talked...and my 23 year old had some questions about her sex life..of course she grew up knowing she could talk to me about anything..(i made sure that she didnt grow up like i did ).now this totally shocked my daughter in law...evidently not much was ever discussed in her family..to be honest ...and im not exaggerating!!..i dont think her parents were intelligent enough to explain ANYTHING (her sister had first baby at 14 and has 4 kids by 3 different fathers..assuming that the twins were fathered by the same man..im not ruling the possibility out))

this afternoon i had to take my daughter in law to the bank, grocery shopping..etc(she doesnt drive) and we went out to lunch.. she said that she had really enjoyed our group talk, that she leaned a lot......and that she wished that she had had a mom.."LIKE ME"!..that she could have grown up able to talk to.....yeah i teared up.....

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Registered: 03-20-2003
Wed, 09-03-2003 - 1:15pm
That is so wonderful. I hope that she feels that she would be able to come to you for advice as well. It is hard for girls that didn't learn what the y needed from their mothers. I absolutely adore my MIL. She has taught me how to be a mother.

Melissa