Mcassella - I am so sorry for your loss

I just read your post below. I am so sorry to hear that your husband has passed. I hope that you can take comfort in knowing that he is out of pain. I know this is a sad time for you. Your children need you as well. Please try to take some time for yourself and allow yourself to experience the emotions that are inside. It is okay to feel sad and angry and relieved and nervous and all at the same time.

I know that you feel your friends are not there for you in this time when you really need them. I also know from experience that some people just do not know how to support a friend. Help them support you, tell them what you need. Call up a friend and just tell her that you need to relive some of the good memories from your time together. Then she will know that it is okay to talk about him. Call up a friend and say that you can't possiblily find the energy to cook supper tonight, could she bring something over so that your kids can eat. Call a friend and say that you just need to be alone for awhile, could she be there for the kids while you get away. I wish you had a support system that would know what you need without having to say it. But it sounds like maybe you have people in your life but they just don't know what to do for you.

You are in my prayers and you are welcome to post here and share your feelings.

Melissa