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|Tue, 09-02-2003 - 11:12pm|
This is sort of a combo vent/question! Does anyone else here have problems with relatives meddling in ur business? And being rude about it? Here is the deal. My aunt Teri is my mom's younger sister. They are both in their 40's. My aunt Teri did not go to college, she married a semi-wealthy guy and had 4 daughters who are now 15-24 (they later divorced and she works for an insurance co for decent $. One of her daughters - my cousin - is my age (18) but I am a lot closer to the 2 older cousins in their 20s. MY mom on the other hand went to college and orig. planned to major in History (which she loves) but changed to education because every1 was pushing her to. She is a teacher and has been for a long time but does not really enjoy teaching and has done a lot of other things for this reason (different jobs)! She always taught me to do what I want to do and dont listen to other ppl. She homeschooled me my jr and sr years so I graduated early (had to get my GED but my ACT scores helped me get a scholarship to college)...I am going in my 2nd semester of college right now and I was trying to decide on a major, and then I decided I wanted to major in dental hygiene which is a 2 yr prog. but I will also be getting a Spanish language associate's degree and also a med tech license just because I want to have those to fall back on too. I feel good about my decision and have talked to a lot of ppl about it incl. my mom's friend's daughter and another cousin (totally unrelated to my Aunt Teri) who are both dental hygienists/assistants and like their jobs. I really think it will be a good career for me. I am not interested in being in a corporate type of job or climbing the co. ladder, being rich and famous, etc...I just would like to make enough money to live decently and be happy. SOOOOO here's the deal...EVERY time we see my Aunt Teri she lectures me endlessly about what a stupid choice I am making. She thinks she is the world expert on what I should do w/ my life and how I should major in computers, business, nursing, etc. She brags about how her daughter (my 18 yr old cousin Jessica) is so smart and is pre med. Teri tells EVERYONE that even the freakin garbage man probably!!! It is not that I am trying to prove I am somehow "better" than Jessica...we get along...but the thing is we go to the same college...and I know that she is making D's. She is heavily into partying and was all psyched about joining a certain sorority til she found out u had to have good grades. My aunt Teri is in denial or apparently doesn't realize this. It is hard to listen to. She has half the family convinced I'm wasting my scholarship. I don't know what to say to her. It's getting to the point that anytime I am around her I want to smack her for jumping down my throat about what I should or shouldnt do w/ my life. My mom tells me to ignore Teri but its hard, u know??? I try to just stay calm but it really makes me mad when she acts like she is the EXPERT on college and she never even went to college for 1 min.