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|Sat, 11-29-2003 - 3:20am|
Hello there. I am going through a situation with my mother-in-law and sister-in-law. My husband and I just got married in October but we dated for two years previous to that. His mother and sister were nice to me the first couple of times I met them. Then they seemed to get bipolar or something and began blaming me for any fights they had with my hubby. All the time constantly if his mother and him or his sister and him got into a fight or anything it was my fault because "he didn't act that way when I wasn't there". Then his sister started getting mouthy with me over our first summer together. I told her she was selfish and spoiled and she threw a phone at me and threatened to kill me. All this stress led to the miscarriage of our first child. About three months later I became pregnant again. We didn't tell anyone until I was four months along. Then it all started over again. His mother called him one night while he was at my house and said that all that mattered now was his sister, him, and his mom and they had to take care of eachother. She knew I was pregnant at this time. It still further on continued. At dinner one night, his sister and him got into a fight. She left the room. His mom made the comment, " Do you want your baby raised in a dysfunctional home?" When he asked if she was calling me dysfunctional, she said no me, you, and your sister are. But our child was not going to be raised in her home. In April, I had my baby shower and at my baby shower she smacked my hubby because he told her he didn't want to hear about her boyfriend. At this time, we were living on our own. He was 19 and I was 18. Our son was born in June. At the hospital, she made sure she had morepictures taken of her with our son then I did. One night after I got home from the hospital she came over. She sat down in front of our son's bassinet, looked up at me, and said don't mind if I call myself mom to him. Then one night my hubby and Iwere trying to talk and she kept calling. He told her that him and I needed to talk and she asked Waht do you need to talk about? She kept calling and eventually we didn't answer. So she called everyone she possibly could and told them I was an unfit mother who was neglecting and abusing our son. She even went as far as to call someone and see how she could go about getting custody of him. Our son has not seen her since. However I go over to my father-in-law's every Sunday. I call him Dad because I love him. Well my sister-in-law apparently has a problem with this and wrote me several nasty emails. I just had to see her yesterday at his dad's and all I got all day were dirty looks from across the room. As you, I want nothing to do with his sister or mother. My husband however thinks I should forgive and let them see our son. He really hasn't supported me through this. When his mom or sister say something about me he doesn't say anything back. But when I say something about them boy do I hear it. What do I do?