MIL Mystery....

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MIL Mystery....
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Wed, 12-14-2011 - 7:15pm

I have this situation...and

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Registered: 11-13-2009
Sat, 12-17-2011 - 3:28pm
I left out your concern about Helga getting drunk on Christmas Eve (and going off on her MIL) because I thought you knew since a previous post that Helga didn't mean it literally.

Keep it up, Sadie, and I'll send my brother to your next family wedding! He's quite the charmer!

; )

(I missed your post until this morning. It wasn't too funny when it happened, though!)

 

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Registered: 12-02-2008
Sat, 12-17-2011 - 4:22pm
Dh knows that he lives with ME now. And that I cook his meals & this is his family. It took a while to get to this point, but he will do what he's got to do when it comes to her.

We've had our fair share of blow ups about her and with her!! I really don't deal with her anymore. I am cordial & polite but there's a wall up. I've forgiven her but I don't think I'll ever forget what she said, especially the things she's said about DD! I'll never understand how a grandmother could say those things or do those things abt one of their own grandkids.
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Registered: 12-02-2008
Sat, 12-17-2011 - 4:24pm
Well, I dunno what to call it. The garage is actually attached to the house BUT you cannot get into the house from the inside of the garage?! I have whatever that's called.

Thanks for the tip though...
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Sat, 12-17-2011 - 4:29pm
I swear, the more you talk about those around, the more I wonder if we're not related in some way!! LOL! Your brother sounds like he's part of my family....acting up at weddings!

My uncle's big joke would be to tell you to "smell this, I think its bad" . Once you got close, they'd push your face into the cake. They did this to me when I was 5 years old and then they all laughed at me, I was traumatized! Lotsa fun at a party these family members are!!!
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Registered: 11-13-2009
Sat, 12-17-2011 - 5:15pm
That was really mean to do to a 5 y.o. kid! Geez. That must have been your father's brother, huh?

My oldest brother went to one of R's relatives' weddings....... then ran away with the bride during the wedding reception. (I wasn't kidding when I said he's charming... To this day, it's never mentioned in either family.)

 

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Sat, 12-17-2011 - 5:32pm

Can't wait for a family wedding, cat...weddings can be so boring with a staid family like ours.

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Sat, 12-17-2011 - 5:41pm

>>>but I don't think I'll ever forget what she said, especially the things she's said about DD!

I get that...my MIL always LOVED her elder son's childen and none of her other grandchildren measured up...and she was fond of telling them so.

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Sat, 12-17-2011 - 10:12pm
No...actually my dad did it to me. But it was something that he, his brother & their cousins thought was hilarious...I remember quite a few family parties where this happened! Really only funny if you were drunk, if it happened to you & you weren't drunk...not so much!!!

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Sat, 12-17-2011 - 10:31pm
I dunno what it is about mil's. My mil thinks that my sil's dysfunctional kids are the sun, the moon & the stars. SIL had both her kids before I had both of my kids. So I understand that mil would be closer to those kids. But she favors my ds over my dd & I have a really hard time with that. On more than one occasion she's said how much my ds reminds her of my dh and how my dd reminds her of ME. No kidding. She just flat out told us that she likes ds better. So, I figured that I didn't have to do anything for her to ruin her relationship with them. All I really had to do was hand her the rope & watch her hang herself! In time, they'll see her for who she really is....but until then, I try to make the kids at least are respectful to her.

What's really sad to me is that my FIL is a really great guy. Just a real sweetheart. He'd do anything for you, fix anything for you and how he ended up with my MIL, I'll never know...
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Sun, 12-18-2011 - 10:51am
I had a similar situation with my mil. She would stop by unexpectedly and refused to knock or even announce herself even after numerous requests. Even more annoying, she would literally creep in as quietly as she could, walking through the house until she was discovered then claim that she had called out & was concerned that we didn't answer. Many times, she scared me out of my wits. Finally, one day I saw her pull into the drive & decided to turn the tables. I waited and watched (I had a great vantage point from the loft) as she made her way through nearly every room in the house (even stopping to see what was on my desk & stopping to look inside a closet)! As she started to make her way up the stairs to the 2nd floor, I stepped out onto the landing & (rather loudly) said, "I didn't think you'd ever find me! Did you really think I was hiding in the closet?" She was speechless! ...and it was the last time she failed to announce herself!