MIL Mystery....

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MIL Mystery....
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Wed, 12-14-2011 - 7:15pm

I have this situation...and

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Sat, 01-07-2012 - 2:08am

You need to sit your mil down and let her know how you feel about her coming into your house without asking permission first. How would she feel if you did it to her? And your husband needs to talk to her about it also.

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Fri, 12-30-2011 - 8:30am
Oh....now I know we're related....her & my MIL are cut from the same cloth!!! ai-yi-yi!!
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Fri, 12-30-2011 - 8:29am
Yup....that's him!!! I think we all must have an uncle like that. Unfortunately, in my family, we have quite a few of them. Actually, all of them are like that!!!

When I was a kid, we used to live with my grandmother & grandfather. I was really little, like 3 or 4. I remember my uncle chasing me & mom around the house with live lobsters---without the bands on their claws!!! We were screaming, my great grandma was yelling in Italian, uncle was cracking up, doors slamming....utter chaos! But that's just how he was....always up to no good!!! I miss him.
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Fri, 12-30-2011 - 4:03am
helga1969 wrote:
Oh we've had that happen here too....until she walked in & I was running around changing clothes after work. She had the nerve to say something to me and I shot back that she should call first! I wasn't naked---had on shorts & a tank top & I guess she thought that was risque' but....whatever! Like I said, call first! Sheesh...

The house we live in is co-owned by MIL/DH {it's left to dh in her will} I was in the shower came out of our bathroom & walked into our room {& I was naked} there MIL & one of lady friends were in my room. I put my bathrobe on & went out to make them tea. But when dh got home he got a earful. At the time dh had a housemate who was home too & he told dh that they didn't ring the doorbell or knocked {they walked around for a while he was in the kitchen making himself something to eat} dh blasted MIL for that one & we did change the locks.

~~Sam stitches well with others, runs with scissors in her pocket. Cheerful and stupid.
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Fri, 12-30-2011 - 3:51am

OMG, Helga & Cat, I know we have got to be related. My dad comes from a family of 15 one of the Uncle's would steal your dinner roll off your plate & shove your hand/fingers in the butter when you passed it to him.

~~Sam stitches well with others, runs with scissors in her pocket. Cheerful and stupid.
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Fri, 12-30-2011 - 3:41am
azure195 wrote:

Getting back to topic, I only give a key to one relative who lives in the same city, about 5 miles away.

~~Sam stitches well with others, runs with scissors in her pocket. Cheerful and stupid.
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Sun, 12-18-2011 - 1:50pm
Oh we've had that happen here too....until she walked in & I was running around changing clothes after work. She had the nerve to say something to me and I shot back that she should call first! I wasn't naked---had on shorts & a tank top & I guess she thought that was risque' but....whatever! Like I said, call first! Sheesh...
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Sun, 12-18-2011 - 10:51am
I had a similar situation with my mil. She would stop by unexpectedly and refused to knock or even announce herself even after numerous requests. Even more annoying, she would literally creep in as quietly as she could, walking through the house until she was discovered then claim that she had called out & was concerned that we didn't answer. Many times, she scared me out of my wits. Finally, one day I saw her pull into the drive & decided to turn the tables. I waited and watched (I had a great vantage point from the loft) as she made her way through nearly every room in the house (even stopping to see what was on my desk & stopping to look inside a closet)! As she started to make her way up the stairs to the 2nd floor, I stepped out onto the landing & (rather loudly) said, "I didn't think you'd ever find me! Did you really think I was hiding in the closet?" She was speechless! ...and it was the last time she failed to announce herself!
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Sat, 12-17-2011 - 10:31pm
I dunno what it is about mil's. My mil thinks that my sil's dysfunctional kids are the sun, the moon & the stars. SIL had both her kids before I had both of my kids. So I understand that mil would be closer to those kids. But she favors my ds over my dd & I have a really hard time with that. On more than one occasion she's said how much my ds reminds her of my dh and how my dd reminds her of ME. No kidding. She just flat out told us that she likes ds better. So, I figured that I didn't have to do anything for her to ruin her relationship with them. All I really had to do was hand her the rope & watch her hang herself! In time, they'll see her for who she really is....but until then, I try to make the kids at least are respectful to her.

What's really sad to me is that my FIL is a really great guy. Just a real sweetheart. He'd do anything for you, fix anything for you and how he ended up with my MIL, I'll never know...
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Sat, 12-17-2011 - 10:12pm
No...actually my dad did it to me. But it was something that he, his brother & their cousins thought was hilarious...I remember quite a few family parties where this happened! Really only funny if you were drunk, if it happened to you & you weren't drunk...not so much!!!

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