Mom didn't tell me this on purpose just to hurt me
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|Tue, 05-17-2011 - 9:50am|
For my mother, giving support to me as a child has always been related to giving money. I never felt emotionally supported from her but now I'm 7 months pregnant I thought it could be different (go figure why). All these months she seemed very happy with my pregnancy and becoming a grandmother. We had an argument last week and we didn't speak since. So she did something yesterday that really shocked me.
Me and my husband we're moving to a new home and since it's not "ours" yet to move, I gave her home address to receive my mail. Yesterday I had a booked appointment with my doctor and when I arrived at the clinic they told me it was canceled and they re-scheduled it to this Friday. They said they sent a letter to my address last week informing about the situation.... they also said they had the confirmation that the letter arrived because she had to sign in order to receive it.
I was in shock because my mother received the letter from the clinic last week and didn't care about telling me about it. I have a huge belly right now and the clinic is a 40km drive. She used to have the habit of opening all my mail so I'm almost sure she opened the letter and decided to totally ignore it, making me drive all the way there for nothing. And even if she didn't open the letter, it has the clinic name and address so she should contact me because it could be something urgent. And because of the argument last week (where she said some nasty things to me) she didn't care.
I'm really really sad and hurt with her attitude. I would never do such a thing to my daughter! I believe that contacting and telling about the letter should be a priority over any argument, especially when you care about your daughter and her baby! Even my husband's mom was shocked with her attitude. I'm also shocked to know she did this on purpose... but what kind of mother would do this on purpose????
I already went to the post office and changed my address so no more letters go to her home. This let me feeling so deeply sad, especially being pregnant. I don't feel like talking to her anymore after this.
Any comments would be appreciated helping me understand why a mother would do this to a daugther.